[totally lost and lonely]

Ok straightforward as this may seem..I'm having feelings for a girl, who is very close friend of mine. At first I thought it was nothing but now I've fallen inexplicably and undoubtedly in love with her....I just cant stop thinking about her and the worst thing is..I keep feeling guilty for feeling this for her because it certainly is a breach of trust..im not having trouble dealing with the fact that im having feelings for a girl, but the fact that shes my close friend and I cannot live anymore without her..I need help and i need it badly...I hope someone reaches out...

[CHANDLERS WISH]

This is difficult, in as much as the "girlfriend" could have put out messages un-be-known to you and you have reacted and she actually likes you too.

Or, she is straight and feels totally comfortable with you, loves you as a friend and you are getting mixed feelings, of just loving being around her and never wanting that to end.

Do you feel sexual about her?

Do you have fantasies about sleeping with her?

At this stage, I think, all you can do as not to lose the friendship is not to ask her straight out any questions, nor tell her anything to in-depth, but "girly" talk, about bi-sexuality, a friend of yours even, as the story line and gage her reaction.

If she comes back with ewee no way, I could never do that, there's not much you can do but try to ease those feelings and then understand that you have feelings for "women" and experiement down that path.

If it's totally her - and she's not that way, and you tell her, you may lose her as a friend.

We all liked "like" someone, but it never eventuates..

It's a tough one because part of me says "tell her", as I believe in honesty, but I guess I also feel that you may get over it and therefore, hold on instead and see if you do, and therefore not lose that friendship.

CW

[Fatin]

totally lost and lonely u r a girl right??

[CHANDLERS WISH]

..im not having trouble dealing with the fact that im having feelings for a girl,

Hey Fatin, reply as if that is the case, seems the way when you read the above lline... That's what I replied to sweet.

CW

[totally lost and lonely]

Well..to be totally honest, yes, I have had sexual thoughts about her and when i'm around her it seems to grow bigger...She's beautiful, smart and incredibly sexy and at times my body language shows I feel this for her. She already knows I'm bisexual and has no trouble with it even though shes straighter than straight (shes told me). Yes shes totally comfortable with me in fact, shes more physical with me than she is with other people. My friends have said they've noticed 'sparks' between the two of us and I must admit, there are intense moments between us..like for example we'll just stare at each other and not say anything for long periods of time. I know she is straight for sure but my friends would have me believe otherwise. I know for a fact that she drives me crazy and I've tried everything from alcohol to flings to try and get over her as I think she'll stop talking to me if I tell her..though the more I do, the more the feelings get stronger..

[totally lost and lonely]

and yes..I am a girl..

[Guest]

its ok to have feelings for someone else. doesn't matter which gender you and and which one they are. feelings are feelings. don't ever feel bad about them. it's a difficult situation; but you said that you tried to get over her by alcohol and flings. don't make it worse by alcohol. i would probably just casually mention something along the lines of "man, i wish i could find an amazing girl like you to date" or make a joke out of it. you have to test the waters before you dive in. you don't want to scare her off...if she really is straighter than a line.

[totally lost and lonely]

She is straighter than a line! And I've dont that before..I actually told her that she was totally my type and that I thought a girl like her was perfect for me. The look on her face said it all..I really didnt need to go further so I said that I couldnt fall for her as she was too close a friend. She just laughed then. Weird. Oh and when I say close friend I mean like we spend all our time together and when we are separate we're always on the phone...I think the only thing I should be doing is trying to get over her.

And also..Thanks you guys for helping me out..It really means a lot..I cant tell you how much..