[Fatin]

ok .. mm i woke up today and i realized that i had a dream it was very wired .. ok it was about me having sex with my boyfriend and it wasn'tt any kind of sex it was sooooo nice and seriously sooo beautiful .. so i woke up and i was in shocked bcos i have my friend and she is married so she was telling me that sex is just hard and painfull so i didn't know what to do i mean shall i tell him about the dream cos really i don't want to tell him .. well you know cos we are in arabic country and these things when u talk about it people can understand u very wrong :S help ..

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I see that, as you dreamed about your boyfriend and there was no pain, it was beautiful.

she is married so she was telling me that sex is just hard and painfull

That was her experience, it actually isn't for all, it wasn't for me... I think allot has to do with how you feel and how slow you go.

I am sensing you are a Virgin and you have been dating for a while but what do you want to do? Do you want to try? Or are you purely dreaming, fantasizing for the future?

A bit more information may help readers sweet.

CW

[Fatin]

mmm ok well answering ur questions: 1st i was just wondering if i can tell him abouot the dream and not thinking that i am bad girl .. and yes i am a virgin and at somehow i am proud of it and 2nd i think i want to try it but NOT before i get married .. so i hope these answers helped

[Guest]

hey sex dreams to me are completely healthy. its nice to fantasize about our significant other. i have them. and they are pretty good. lol. i think your friend might have had a bad experience as CW said. sex is different for everyone. and even though you might not want to have sex now; its perfectly fine.

as far as telling your boyfriend. i think that if you aren't ready to have sex in real life; then i would suggest not telling him. becuase you might not know how he would react towards it. and you aren't a "bad" girl. like i said i think sex dreams are normal.

[WildChild]

Are you native to that country and raised in that culture? Or are you in one of the enclaves of foreign workers?
It's unfortunate that your freind doesn't enjoy sex but that doesn't have to be your experience.

[totally lost and lonely]

Hmmm...firstly sex is painful the first time only..after that it becomes increasingly good. Maybe your friends husband is doing certain things that make her feel pain..there are a whole host of things. I agree with yellowpiXi3 when she says that sex dreams are normal and if you are'nt ready to have sex you shouldnt share it with him because he'll just raise his expectations and may even, force you to have sex.
Dont have sex if your not ready for it as I did and I felt pretty awful after it...wait till the right time which may not be only after your married.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

See, I'm not sure even that it hurts the first time? Well, it didn't for me but anyway, I am a witch who knows, I may have cast a spell and wasn't thinking...

I also probably wouldn't tell him, for the same reason.. He may think whoo hoo she is almost there, and try and that's not what you want, he is a man, they can't help it, the radar goes up and that's it... It's hard for them.

Also love, why would he think anything other than beautiful of you?

If he loves you, in my opinion, you dreaming of sex with him would have to mean that you adore him and can visualise doing so, when the time is right.

If your "intuition" says otherwise, ie) he may think your bad, then maybe you picked a guy who is not understanding of how things work..

It's sooooo normal and sexy to dream, and fantasise and visualise.. Don't stop being you..

CW

[Fatin]

oh u guys thank u soooo much .. u lighten me up .. man now i know i love this forum hehehe by the way when i went to my college in sudan i was trying to open this website .. any help?? cos i really want to stay in touch with all of u

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Aweeeeee....

Well as long as you have internet, you should be able to log in as per usual....... Same name, same password, same language you are writing it in now love.


Let's hope you have internet... huh...

[Fatin]

looooool no i didn't mean that i do have internet and its actually very good and very fast unlike here :s and i can open any webpage i want except this forum :s ..