[Gemmalicious]

Ive been with my boyfriend now for just over a year and we are living together, he is the best thing thats ever happened to me and i love him so much! im seperted from my husband and my divorce is due to go through next year. My current boyfriend has 2 little boys to an ex he was with for 9 years he has them every saturdaay which ive gotten used to, but everytime he mentions them or mentions picking them up or dropping them off at their mothers i get a straange and awful feeling ....i think it might be because we want a baby together but we cant because he has had the snip. . i couldnt have children with my husband....im not sure if its the boys im jelous of or his ex girlfriend?? can anyone help? theres not just that but i also get jelous when my boyfriend looks at another girl he cheated on his ex when he went on a stag night and never told her about this but felt he would tell me, he swears he wont cheat on me but people saay once youve cheated once you will cheat again??? Its really getting to me and i need some advice.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I think there is a reason for cheating, non love.


I think you need to see him for whom he is, is he a serial cheater or it was cause he wasn't happy.

He never told her... He didn't care...

I think he's standing up for his rights, in lying and cheating...

Trying to protect what he has now, you.

CW

If he has had the snip? How can you have his child sweet?

Is this what you want, his kids, never yours?

I think personally if he lied and cheated on his ex, then he has no morals.

I think you need to follow your gut feeling personally.

[WildChild]

Having done it once doesn't mean he'll do it again. Having been snipped doesn't mean he can't have it reversed, that depends on time passed, method used and how he healed. A urologist could assess that. But you need to get your divorce finalized before you move that far and you need to get over this jealousy and uneasiness. Give it some time and see how things develop? It takes 6 months to two years t o get over the infatuation phase and see what you really have. Let those chemicals work their way from your body before you make any life long choices.

[SimplyChaotic]

my 2 cents

My boyfriend is also divorced and he cheated on his wife while they were together because he was unhappy. I've cheated on one of my boyfriends in the past with a guy I was in love with. We both know about our past cheats but we trust each other...I don't have a thread of doubt in my mind. I know he will never cheat on me and he knows I will never cheat on him.

Jealousy is a sign of a lack of trust and yet it is a natural emotion. But if you constantly feel strong jealous emotions...then I would say you don't trust him. A relationship cannot work out unless there is trust.