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  • babicakesz
    Junior Member
    • May 2009
    • 6

    Mother In Law is a !!

    I have a problem, well not exactly a problem .. But, me and my boyfriend, techically my fiance, have been together for 2 almost 3 years. His mother and I have had a good relationship in the past. But recently I felt like she was trying to turn him against me. I did live in her house for about a year but she kicked me out and we are renting a room. We are short on money because only I work, but we manage. But as you can imagine, we do fight about money, and once we start he always brings up "Well its your fault we're here, we waste money every week because you got kicked out my mom's".

    OK! I got kicked out her house because her daughters use to steal my clothes and one day I saw they had my socks, so I addressed it and their mother kept insisting it was not my sock. The girl and I had an argument and I lost it and hit her. So how could I not think she stole my stuff when she did it in the past?

    Anyway, back to the story.. Well we ALWAYS fight over his stupid mother. Everybody thinks she went overboard kicking me out, I tell him that and he just curses me out saying its my fault.

    We've always fought about his mother because she is crazy. She tries to control everything and tries to win his love. His grandmother said his mother poisoned his mind, and I pretty much think so too.

    After me and him moved out, she called his father and told him about everything me and him went through, she lied and said she did not kick me out. His dad said he doesn't want us together, but he did not say it to him, he found out his father said this through his mother. On top of that, that later called my mother telling her all these lies.

    I used to like her until she started spitting on my name, me and her were very close at one point. Until I felt that she wanted her son to break up and leave me.

    Why is this stupid lady trying to my life up? On top of that, why is her son defending her actions, but is choosing to live with me? Like I hate that so bad, I wish I could put her down. She is the problem and my boyfriend (fiance) can't see that. What can I do or say?
  • CHANDLERS WISH
    • Mar 2008
    • 22440

    Well, i think you have an anger issue personally.

    Besides the fact that you hit his sister over a pair of socks, your post has anger tones and the comments as well, like " you wish you could put her down" , "stupid lady", "his stupid mother"...

    The fact is, it was "her" house and therefore her rules and if she didn't like that you hit her daughter and asked you to leave, or told you to leave that's her priogrative.

    You say you and your boyfriend "fiance" ALWAYS fight, about her but you fight over other things too yes?

    He says "you waste money," but I am assuming he means only pertaining to "rent" so did you not pay her rent at all "board" when you both lived there?

    If not he's being selfish because everyone has to pay their way in life.

    Why is he not working? Perhaps he should find something and contribute to the relationship, how are you mean't to support a child one day?

    And, you say you only earn the money and work.. So you pay rent, food, utilities and nothing for yourself?

    Finances can stress a relationship out totally.

    You need to respect the wishes of other people whether you agree or not, tell your Mother, "well Mum you know me, and have for years make your own conclusion" and your boyfriend/fiance needs to take stress off of you and get a job as well.

    Instead of blaming you for the reason why you pay rent.

    You are independent adults and have to stand on your own two feet, not him feel that now that you have rent to pay, it's your fault... Your Adults.

    But, curve the Anger and get some help there because hitting someone, really doesn't solve anything, nor constant arguments..

    Anger is a killer of relationships of any kind.

    CW
    PUT A LITTLE 'LIKE' IN MY SOUL!

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    • Fatin
      Senior Member
      • Feb 2009
      • 171

      omg i just cant believe this!!!! but i kind of agree with CW i think you do have anger problems ..

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