[pinkie]

Hi.new here.my boyfriend (long distance)just told me he is in love with someone else,who lives closer.he cheated on me with her because he said it meant nothing and i believed him,but now he says he thinks he loves her,but doesnt think it'll work out with her.he knows he cant have his cake and eat it too.
he says he still loves and cares for me but he has to try with this girl.
Personally i think he is bored and being rash...
but i dont know what to do,as i love him.
do i let him go?do i wait around?!
help please,cause i cant go through another hard breakup!
thanks.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Well, I don't think he knows what he wants.

Long distance is SOOOO Hard, I know, I am in one.

Is he talking "hormones, verses, affection?", I think so....

She's there, he can get sex, your not but your special....

Tell him "go for it.. but I won't be here after, your a special person but I am also very special", let him ponder on that.

CW

[pinkie]

Thank you so much.
My mam/sister aren't here and im only 18 so i needed a woman to let me know what i should do!terribly confusing!

[WildChild]

Let him go with good wishesh. At least he is being fairly honest with you. It may be that he comes back saying he wants you. Then you'll have some choices to make and one condition should be that there won't be another chance. He may just move on too. GIve your self sone time to heal, get out with friends and you may be surprised that there are some great guys right in the neighborhood.

[Hopeless Dork]

your a special person but I am also very special", let him ponder on that.

CW

What a simple, yet eye opening way to express loving someone, but still loving yourself too, enough to not let how much you love that other person blind you to what you are worth. Brilliant.

[elise]

If he is being honest with you then you should hear what he is saying. Let him go, and move on. If he comes back you can make a decision then if you choose to take him back. Your young, and there are plenty of men out there. However, you are in love with him which makes it harder to let go. Trust your instincts not your heart and you will find your answer. Good luck!!!

[Guest]

let him go. you said he cheated on you with her... and long distance or not, you're in a relationship. i personally don't tolerate cheating, physically and emotionally. you're young focus on yourself first. and everything else will follow.

[M&Ms]

let him go. you said he cheated on you with her... and long distance or not, you're in a relationship. i personally don't tolerate cheating, physically and emotionally. you're young focus on yourself first. and everything else will follow.

Agreed. Oddly, you don't even sound that upset that he cheated on you...and now after doing the act as though it 'meant nothing' he has turned around and told you that he loves this girl??? The dude doesn't sound like much of a keeper. I'd drop him ASAP. You're way too nice (seeing that you're willing to forgive him) to put up with him.

[ThexMrs]

I agree... Let him go but on good terms.

My now ex boyfriend cheated on me because of the distance and we had been together almost a year. It's so so so hard! I was devastated. I took some time to myself after that happened, made a lot of bad decisions out of pain but now that a little time has passed we are BEST FRIENDS. I still love him though.

[stressed]

When he agreed to be in a long distance relationship he should have considered the consequences and the possibility that he could find a 'more available' woman he'd be attracted to. He cheated on you, which shows that he couldn't keep his word and couldn't stay loyal to you because he wanted sex. Therefore,

1) He will do it again
2) You cannot trust this man
3) Let him go for good and don't take him back if things won't work out with the other girl
4) You deserve better.