[ariel571]

I was wondering if there are other women on here who are married to/have a relationship with a much older (or much younger) man... I would love to get to know you, just to chat a little... My husband is 26 years older than me. We have known each other for 20 years but didn't get married until last year. We are very happy...but people have called us strange things, to say the least...especially when I first moved in with him.

[mossifern]

mines 10 yrs older...

yep it does make a difference but some of the differences i like !!

but the sex thing no i dont, im much more sexually confident and active...shouldnt the confidence thing be the other way around ?
we havent had any wierd strange attitudes or anything just ohhh.

[ariel571]

10 years doesn't seem that much to me.
But you are absolutely right, there are aspects about this that I absolutely love... As far as confidence is concerned, that has probably more to do with your husband's individual personality.

[Yandere]

My boyfriend is 10 years younger than me.. as someone else said.. it does make some difference... but mostly i do believe it is all just down to compatibility. :0)

[Mes T]

My boyfriend isn't that much older than me (just 7 years), but in our particular situation I feel like there is a maturity gap. I'm definitely less mature than he is and find myself trying to hide it a little bit.

[bettygreen]

age difference makes a big difference

My husband is 16 years older than me. At first I thought that age did not matter, only love but I was wrong. I found out that both love and age does matter and you have to find ways to compromise on both sides of course to make it work.

People at first would look at us in a weird way trying to figure out what it was in it for me. They liked gossiping about us but now we know who are our true friends.

Another thing, when I married my husband he was spry and energetic and now - thanks to spinal surgery he had 2 cervical discs removed - he can hardly walk. It is hard when I am young married to a man who now cannot keep up with me.

I love him with all my heart by my mind weighs heavily on our relationship.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

bettygreen..

In case you read this.. How long have you been married for?

Is this the only reason that you feel "robbed" and comprise is hard/difficult because it is for sure a major key, component.. My ex-husband had 5 disks gone, but 4 years later, he's coping and doing things almost naturally as is my Brother, who had a disk go. Time and patience is needed.

But, if there are other reasons as well "age" "can't keep up", what is it you miss? Parties? Can you have groups over at home? It would cheer him up too...

Bascially, I am saying, there are solutions to everything... But, once love is gone, it's gone.

CW

[bettygreen]

I have been married for 4 years.

It is not the parties I miss in fact I am a homebody.

My husband has anxiety when placed in a social situation unless they are good friends. I encourage him invite his friends over and a guy's night while I make myself scarce or have a girl's night. If I do arrange a group to come over which is rare because he does not want to see people very often, it cannot be more than two.

Yes, there are solutions to everything I agree. At this point I am tired and exhausted. I had to fight with my husband countless times before I got him into the hospital which the surgeon was very lucky because by that time one of discs ruptured.

That is not the only thing. I guess I am tired of trying to help my husband to be healthy when he does not want it.

[ThexMrs]

My ex boyfriend (Soon to be boyfriend again - lol) is 15 years older than me. I'm 22 and he's 37. I wouldn't change it for the world. I've always gotten along better with older men plus they are just so much sexier.

I could care less what anyone thinks of us. If we're happy then that's all that matters. (Neither him or I care about the age difference) The only problem (Which I really don't care) is that my brother's don't like it. They're 29 and 27 and they think it's just totally messed up. At one point my brother said to me, "If I had a 21 year old putting out. I'd do it too." WHATEVER!

We loved each other and we still do. We have an amazing thing. *sigh* I love him. After 17 months (Which isn't that long) I still get absolutely giddy about him. The butterflies still come when he calls. The whole 9 yards. (Okay, you didn't ask about all that so I'll end it here)

[serineandfree]

I will be 40 in december and the bf just turned 29. So not huge age difference but some. I love it, love it, love it