[laurabrooks]

I m in a relationship with a boy for 7 months, he treat me very good. but i dont know y not enjoying sex with him(not his problem), always thinking having sex with my ex and 2 somes with my ex, his mate and brother, and the one night stand also. i know its bad, shall i leave him? i dont want to leave him, because he is very lovely and treat me very good. its not fair to him, what should i do? X

[stressed]

You seem to be very young, but I could be wrong.
First off, have you told him in a nice way how you feel about your sex life? That you want to try different things and so on? Why aren't you enjoying sex with him? And most of all, it's better to be sure that you really love a person before you start having sex with him, otherwise the sex can never be as good as you're hoping for, unless you enjoy one night stands a lot. If you have doubts about whether you love him or not then you have to spend some time alone and think things over before you consider having sex with him again.

[tritonalum07]

My personal belief is that love is a feeling you can't really describe. When you love someone, REALLY love them, you know it. If you have to ask yourself if you love this "boy," as you call him, then frankly, I don't think you do. However, I agree that you sound very young. Often times younger people (not that I'm old, I'm only 24, but I'm guessing I have several years on you) aren't sure if what they're feeling is actually love or infatuation if they've never felt it before. I've loved two men in my life, and knew it from the beginning. I never had to ask myself if I loved them. If you are confused about whether you love him or not, I'd venture to say you don't, especially if you're thinking about having sex with other people. If you truly love someone, would you want to give that part of you to someone else? Just something to think about.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

You want adventure, yet you have someone whom loves you;.. The ex, included another male for his own selfish reasons, he didn't love you.. He found it exciting and so did you.

If you not in love with this guy, then leave him let him find someone whom he can connect with.

But, before you do, realise that your ex did not love you, he was kinky but he allowed others, not one but 2 to sleep with you whilst he participated.

It's called fantasy congratualtions, you've had it.

What do you want?

Sex, with fantasy?

Or a man whom loves you?

CW