Am I wrong for doing that??
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With knowing that he has a girlfriend, yes. If you did it because you still like him and want him to like you, that's understandable but it doesn't make it right. (Been there and it was a huge mistake) You should stop.[CENTER][I][COLOR=purple][B][FONT=Garamond]"All the beats and melodies keep realities at bay but what happens when the records done and starts to fade away? [/FONT][/B][B][FONT=Garamond]Alone within myself again, I try to veil away my pain. [/FONT][/B][B][FONT=Garamond]The dirty grey surrounding me 'round..... And now I hear no sound."[/FONT][/B][/COLOR][/I][/CENTER] -
So you're his fall back girlfriend then? He gets to go and have sex with this other woman, spend time with her, buy her things, essentially lead her on but also talk to you, send dirty photos to you and vice versa and make you promises. That doesn't sound very fair. Is it okay with you that they're sleeping together? Is it okay with you that you get whatever time is left over? I'm just wondering.[CENTER][I][COLOR=purple][B][FONT=Garamond]"All the beats and melodies keep realities at bay but what happens when the records done and starts to fade away? [/FONT][/B][B][FONT=Garamond]Alone within myself again, I try to veil away my pain. [/FONT][/B][B][FONT=Garamond]The dirty grey surrounding me 'round..... And now I hear no sound."[/FONT][/B][/COLOR][/I][/CENTER]Comment
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It's a very sticky situation. We both want to be together but we can't because of the distance. We agreed on seeing other people, as long as it doesn't change anything between us. Honestly, it kills me to even think of him having sex with other girls, but I have also met other people and had a friend with benefits. We're still in love, and basically he is using the other girl for a consistent sexually based relationship.Comment
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You really need to read what you just wrote.
Why would you EVER want to be with someone like that?We're still in love, and basically he is using the other girl for a consistent sexually based relationship.
1. I think that sex is something you share between two people that really love each other. Not just so he can cum with someone, somewhere, just to get some.
2. He's openly using someone, messing with their feelings and in the end will probably have her heart broken. What if that were YOU?
That's something you need to think about. If you wouldn't want that done to you, don't do it to her. You're only hurting her just like him.[CENTER][I][COLOR=purple][B][FONT=Garamond]"All the beats and melodies keep realities at bay but what happens when the records done and starts to fade away? [/FONT][/B][B][FONT=Garamond]Alone within myself again, I try to veil away my pain. [/FONT][/B][B][FONT=Garamond]The dirty grey surrounding me 'round..... And now I hear no sound."[/FONT][/B][/COLOR][/I][/CENTER]Comment
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Guys, the OP has or has had a "friend with benefits" as well.
Why is it wrong for the man to have a friend with benefits that "he's seeing", while it's okay for the woman?
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It's not okay by any means. I think that there is a difference when you have an FWB but aren't dating them and leading them on with intentions that you don't really have. That's the problem and the point I was trying to make. He's not been upfront with the girl he is dating now, from what I can tell, she has because it was ONLY an FWB.
As I said, I think that sex should be shared between two people that really love each other and though sex is a human basic need I feel that even in an LDR you should at least make the effort to try and not have sex with other people. If you can't, that's a whole other issue.
When I was in my LDR I didn't have sex with other people, I didn't have FWB's because I really wanted only him. I really loved him. Was it hard? Yes but if you really love someone I don't think you need to have sex with other people.[CENTER][I][COLOR=purple][B][FONT=Garamond]"All the beats and melodies keep realities at bay but what happens when the records done and starts to fade away? [/FONT][/B][B][FONT=Garamond]Alone within myself again, I try to veil away my pain. [/FONT][/B][B][FONT=Garamond]The dirty grey surrounding me 'round..... And now I hear no sound."[/FONT][/B][/COLOR][/I][/CENTER]Comment
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