[Amber]

Hi, Amber. I have been following your thread, but sad to say, I was caught in the middle of the world of work and emotional backlog myself. I would look for some hobbyist' group that meet weekly. What do you love to do during your spare time - the ones that you used to do, wanted to try, and hope/wish you could try? (I have been in your situation 3 months ago).

There are meetup groups/clubs that I could look into. As I said in the previous post, I can't be too active due to feet problem. But it seems a lot of things I usually do that are not active, I was already doing with my ex. Movies, listening to music, spectator sports. That kind of stuff. I looked into book clubs but they usually pick the type of books that I wouldn't like to read.

I guess I can look again at the many groups to see if I can find something else.

[caterpillar79]

I also have my share of sedentary things. I go to a bookstore and spend an average of 2 hours there, just browsing/reading books. And mind you, I really stay in a corner, one wouldn't think that a person stays there to read.

I literally changed almost all stuff that I could: moved places, changed even my dining set, my hair color/cut. I also corrected my eating habits, the way I relate to people - more smiles even with strangers. (Fake it till you make it).

I also joined a gardening club, a choir, a belly dancing studio amongst others. Weird, huh?

[Amber]

I also have my share of sedentary things. I go to a bookstore and spend an average of 2 hours there, just browsing/reading books. And mind you, I really stay in a corner, one wouldn't think that a person stays there to read.

I literally changed almost all stuff that I could: moved places, changed even my dining set, my hair color/cut. I also corrected my eating habits, the way I relate to people - more smiles even with strangers. (Fake it till you make it).

I also joined a gardening club, a choir, a belly dancing studio amongst others. Weird, huh?

No, I wouldn't say weird. Unless you have an interest in mind, which I don't, it is hard to even search a club for it. That is the problem I'm running into. But I did see some women only clubs. I'm thinking maybe I might at least join a few of those.

[caterpillar79]

Yeah, try that...or maybe volunteer in a humanitarian group - that should help you feel useful, needed and appreciated.

When I joined the gardening (bonsai) club, I thought I would meet women - nope! I met men instead. Funny! and then the choir - mostly women in their 40's who cared about me...belly dancing studio - I thought of women my age - still mostly older. But I found refuge in them, at the same time learning the skill.

I might try to sign-up for a cooking class or maybe Spanish Ed., or knitting/crafters group. What say you?

[Amber]

Believe it or not, even cooking is a sore subject. I was trying to learn how to cook better when I started to go out with him. And I also found out from a friend that my ex is in the local cooking club. I'll pass on cooking. I was never one good at crafts.

The women clubs are restricted to women only, so no men there. But if I find a hobby, then who knows. Maybe something I like to try will come to mind. Thanks for trying.

[caterpillar79]

You are who you want to be. Just take each day as it goes. Be patient to yourself. This forum is my refuge. Just banter with us more - what else can I say?

I am happy that you are open to try writing a journal though. It is therapeutic. I am about ready to burn mine soon.

[Amber]

I'm looking forward to the day that I can burn mine. Until then maybe it will help me.

[Texinator]

Thanks Tex, I needed that laugh. Something tells me the future boyfriend may not want me to get help on that.

I doubt you would want to get help on that either, wild thing.