[hwlett]

Hello i'm just new here and these is my first thread..

I am currently living with my boyfriend and he is married..I accept that fact because i love him..And even though it hurts me when he was talking or chatting with his wife..But these past few days I wanted to leave and stop the relationship i have with him so i stop hurting but i feel like i could'nt take it and that it will hurt me more..

please i need an advice how will i deal with it..=(

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Actually, it's your second thread.

How can he be married if you have sex every single day? Meaning, does he go home to her? And, how often, when and how does he explain his absense?

A person who is sleeping with a married man, knowingly is not a girlfriend, she is a mistress... Being used, seeing as he communicates with his wife in front of you, he is keeping the peace, unless he's married and not "Divorced" rather, separated and no longer in a committed relationship, then you are his girlfriend, as he no longer lives with her at all.

Re- your other thread? Are you using a Condom?

Now it is sounding a little different about your "feeling" when you pee and spot blood", based on this second thread.

CW

[hwlett]

yes he is married..but her wife is in the other country and im here with him..what can i do..im sorry i was just drinking so i have the guts to post these..

[hwlett]

oh my other thread he's not using a condom ..he is sniff..he's not able to make me pregnant..

[hwlett]

Im sorry CW I cant really explain that "feeling"..I dont know i just feel ashamed to admit that maybe i just wanna get laid..that im horny..And about my second thread then im a mistress cuz he's relationship with his wife is still good he just visit her couple of times these year..And so the chatting and calling i think he's doing that so his wife wont think he's cheating...

[WildChild]

What does, "..he is sniff" mean?
CW is right you are a mistress not a girlfriend.
Why did you chose to live with him?
Are you economically dependent on him?
This isn't going to go anywhere and I think you know that. He wants to eat his cake and have it too. You've made that possible for him.
Just being horny? If sex is all you want, you can get it. If you want an actual relationship, you won't get on while you are with this man. And this isn't very honest.
Do he and his wife have children? Are they dependent on him? What happens when his wife finds out? This just can't end well. You need to leave.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

What does, "..he is sniff" mean?

Snipped


hwlett,

I take it he's in "your" Country where you are living now, working. And, goes home twice a year for a few weeks, to his wife. Eventually, this work ends and he gets to go home "full time"...

Where did you meet this man? Where we you living, before he had you come live with him? And how long ago, and how long is he in your Country for.

When we drink, we can be "happy" or "depressed". If you say you had the "guts" to write these threads from drinking, judging by the context of the threads, you were thinking of things you don't like.

We can guide you and give you our opinions but give us a little more information over all of this.

Your not there because you are "horny", even if he is attentive to you, you know you can find a boyfriend, but can you live again on your own fiancially?

CW

[hwlett]

Im sorry for that word "sniff" i mispelled it.Yes he have kids with his wife and they are dependent on him..

Miss CW

I met him in the club i work before..I leave that club because of the barfines and i cant do that kind of job..I came here to Korea all i know my job is a singer.Before i live with the girls i work with..I been living with him for like 8 months now.And he's only here for a year.From the start i know he's married,and i thought at first that's fine with me.At first i didnt mind if he is chatting or talking with his wife. But now i love him so much that i just want him for myself.He took good care of me so i fall deeply.I dont know if I should be get used to these emotional torture cuz i see these everyday.but im not it always hurt me..I dont know if I should leave or just wait until he leaves these country and it will be over..And move on with my life without him..

[Mes T]

I'm sorry. YOU can do better.

I saw a red flag immediately when you said Korea. I'm living in Korea right now too, and the men who come here to fool around with women (that's what he's doing, he's FOOLING around with you and probably with other women, especially with Korean ones) are NOT good news. This is not the type of person you want to be mixed up with.

Go find someone who can love you back as much as you love him, in whose life YOU will be the only woman. Those guys are out there, don't waste another breathe with this idiot. Leave, now, don't look back, no regrets. This is a terrible situation to be in.

[happy ending]

i agree with all the other posters, you are just a convenience to this man, a bed warmer until he can go back to his wife, please save all your love for someone who is free to love you back. take care.