[hwlett]

Thank you so much for all the advice i really appreciate it..Im glad i found these site..

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I could get used to being called Miss CW

I imagine he actually lives somewhere in America? A business man like I said, commissioned to a job ( good job that pays well), for a short period, in this case 1 year, who (knew he was going to be lonely) but also knew that someone would be vulvernable as MesT said, in Korea there are lots of beautiful girls like you that are sharing a place and to be looked after, in a place of your own, is probably a dream, one that you made reality.

It's not hard to "suck in the weak", the "vulnerable" that doesn't have much and be enticed.

It is, though no love but the love of the affection, the nice things, the home, the non having to work, him paying for things, this is the "life" you love.

In your heart you now feel jealous, as you know this life has to end.

It wasn't yours to begin with, just a fantasy you made a reality. Every affair, every relationship, we have emotions attached, always to a man, it is the way we are.

He in reality is a sleeze. He is not worthy of your love. He found you (on the first week) being here, 8 months plus 4 = 12, equals gone.. You've been with him 8 months pretty much as soon as he arrived, he set out his plan of finding a Woman in Korea who he could entice and spend 1 year having sex every day, as you said in your other thread.

Every day for 8 months.. He got exactly what he came for and his payment is you living with him, off of him.. He's happy..

Remember that... He looked for "someone" for this... It didn't happen by chance.

Go find a job.

When you find one, save.

Do not let him talk you out of finding a job.

Then look for a place to stay and walk away...

CW

[kms]

hwlett, does your family know that you are living with this man? Does your family know that you quit your job and are depending on him? I have a lot of Korean friends, and it seems that their parents will do everything to make sure they are taken care of and are provided for. Surely you can't turn to them for support?

[hwlett]

I am thinking i did these to myself it's all my fault i know from the very start he's married and i still continue the relationship while i have the chance to be with someone who's not married.And now i don't know how to let go i'm so used being with him always.He is the longest relationship i ever had.

My family knows i quit my job but they dont know that im living with a married man.My parents will be surely be mad at me..I am not korean KMS I am a filipina..I came here to Korea to help my parents cuz earning money in the philippines is not good..

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Yes, you made a wrong decision, no one is questioning that.

But, if you've been together for 8 and he leaves in 4 (12 months), he sought you out so don't you think he is just as much to blame?

Did you do it to send money back to your parents? Does he give you money?

You were working to help them with food etc I assume..

CW

[hwlett]

I can still earn money here even i dont live with him..There were just lot of job offers here.Yes he did send money gave me money gave everything i wanted or needed..The money i send to my family i could say i earn it cuz im working to his company through my laptop..

I don't know if i should blame him.He told me he's married before we started.Did'nt promise me anything.He told me he love me and wants to take good care of me even i go back to philippines and he would a gave me a job.Still wants to see me after his contract here.I dont know if it's just for sex or he just really like or loved me.I know he can get sex anywhere he might go next..He told me it's ok if I will have another boyfriend and ask me if he come and visit if I would meet him..

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Well, if he "loved you", he would want you as his mistress and NOT, want you to have any boyfriend.

You say you have sex every day... And, have, everyday... Off course, he can travel, he owns a business, he has money, he gives you money, you send it to your family and he still will look after you, if you say "yes"...

He "cares" for you. How can he not? You are in love with him.. He knows that. He knows or thinks that you will still share with him.

Off course it's his fault? He, is married. He initiated it. He is having sex every day with a woman whilst married. How can you think not?

Be an honest woman and earn your money and meet a nice man who is there for you everyday as well, but will never leave you... Because, he has no wife.

CW

[hwlett]

Thank you Miss CW I appreciate all the advice you gave me.Well I guess i'm in denial that it's not his fault.I want to take all the blame..

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Sometimes, it helps. It helps with the guilt of why we did something in the first place.

But, don't let it burden you or create a problem in your mind.

The longer you stay, the harder to forget.

Sometimes, it's selfish reasons,easier way out. Fun and happy as well.

You already know the answer anyway.

Take Care.

[hwlett]

thank you again Miss CW

Take care..