[LiLp]

Lately I've been plannin things out. I'm finding a school to attend and picking up a fantastic trade, and seeking a job.

Well I've always thought about moving out of my home. Never gettin an apartment but possibly rentin out a room.

Me and the boyfriend were talkin and he told me that movin in with hiis family can be an option. I would have my own room, and they see me as family now, so he says, but I've just begun gettin use to bein open around them. Anyway, he said I wouldn't have to pay rent (I would anyway) that if anything hiis mother would just want me to help around the house. No matter what I will pay rent. But I have a couple worries....

1. Hiis two older brothers don't really like me.

The oldest and I had a stupid little thing before I ment my boyfriend but the boyfriend hiim and I squashed that quick, then I was okay with the other then all a sudden he started dislikin me. They aren't here anymore, they left for the military to but still I feel it would be awkward if they came back from boot to see I've moved in. I don't want awkwardness.

2. What if we (god forbidd) broke up??

I mean right now me and hiim are makin things work. I feel very happy with hiim but I don't want to feel that bein hiim is an obligation in order to stay. He said hiis ma wouldn't kick me out unless I had a place to go but you know thiis is a very crucial factor.



We've talked about it and decided to continue talkin when he comes home. He's takin me on a date

I feel like movin out of my house will help my relationshiip with my family. It feels like its crumblin and I don't want it to.

I need help, or some advice.

Should I try? Should I take thiis risk??

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Well, I wouldn't personally,

He's taking you out on a "date?"... haven't been together for a very long time?

You will have your own room but you know, you will want to sneak into his and him into yours and that will cause problems when his Parents find out and they will

Then your always there 24/7 which is totally different than living with him on your own.

You'll want to know where he goes etc.. it will cause problems I think.

I am sure you'd pay rent and help around the house but you won't want to "keep to yourself in your room"..

You'll feel like your making tabs on each other.

I would suggest that you go for that career, that job and save and go from there, in the next 6 months or so.

For now stay put and enjoy "dating" cause that would go out the door as well if you moved in, there would be no need

CW

[LiLp]

He doesn't live with them.

He live bout 3 hours away. We rarely see eachother except on weekends, if that.

We go on dates to kinda just give us time together and enjoy one on one besides goin to sleep and such.

Its a wanting thiing like I want to just long enough to save and get out completely on my own.

I honestly can't handle my family and sister anymore. Plus school will start soon and gah knows I will never get any stydyin done here.

So confused....

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Well, if he doesn't live with them.

Can you?

Will you be able to get along with them, help out be the perfect flat mate?

Therefore, no iness going back to him, just what a great girlfriend he has?

Then why not?

That makes things totally different

CW