[jnd2009]

A month or two ago I posted about my boyfriend and I and our possible open relationship. I, from the start, was perfectly OK with my boyfriend and best friend hooking up. She has always been if-e on the sex factor, and lately has said she doesn't think she can do it. She has always said she thinks it will end up being weird. Anyways, my boyfriend's best friend (who call each other their best man), has known bits and pieces about the situation. He has always said from the start it will ruin everyone's relationship and basically said no don't do it. He even gets mad about it and seems to have strong feelings against it.
Well whenever we go out to bars and such, it's normally us 4 and whoever else. Well I don't think my boyfriend has let the thought of getting with my best friend go. They can get touchy/feely, but with our group of friends it's completely normal (as weird as that sounds!). Well when we all went out around Thanksgiving (all were drinking btw), my boyfriend and best friend ended up making out. His best friend also saw it. Shortly after we all wanted to go to one last bar, and his best friend and I left. When we got to the other bar we were waiting for them, and his best friend was basically mad and saying how could you let them do that and blah blah. I told him I don't care (which I really don't) and I forget exact words of the rest of the conversation, but it was the same thing of no you should let that open relationship idea go.
I know many have already told me it shouldn't happen. I let the idea go of them actually hooking up, but if it happens it happens (although I don't think it will go any further). I was fine with the idea even before I had my end of the deal (which he still doesn't know happened). So, yes, that's mainly probably why I'm ok with them. But my main question is why does his best friend get SO mad about this idea? The only thing I can think of is maybe he's happy about our relationship and doesn't want us to ruin it? Jealous? Likes my best friend? Let me know what you think...

[Mes T]

IMO it's most likely just his views on the whole open relationship thing. I'm against it and I think I too would have that reaction if people in my tight circle of friends were to do that.

I don't think it's any more complicated than that, from his perspective.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I agree, he's friends with both of you and he sees that this may create a split at some stage with you both, he doesn't want to see that and he's not open to the idea, he has his own views and thoughts on it.

But, if she kissed him (your boyfriend) to me that means, that she's changing her tune of "feeling awkward" to feeling a tad, "excited at a no go zone" in usual relationships and she's interested.

This you have to accept somewhere down the track will, go no-where, will go somewhere or will go along way and she and him will hook up, whilst you and him are no longer.

There are only 3 ways this will go sweet.

CW

[Sprite]

I think in his eyes as well as everyone else's, he thinks that it's wrong and it's not the normal thing to do. Therefore, he is trying to prevent something bad happening, which most likely could be the case, such as the group splitting up over someone getting angry.

I don't think it's a case of him liking your best friend, I think it's a case of him trying to protect his friends, and he obviously thinks that it's the right thing to do. By him letting you know that it's not right, is a way of him letting you know that he really isn't happy about what's going on.

Does your boyfriend and your best friend know that he isn't happy?

[jnd2009]

My best friend knows, I'm not sure if he's said anything to my boyfriend about it.

[Sprite]

Try discussing it with your boyfriend and see how he feels about it. Then that way you can decide together where to go from there.