I have been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for nearly 11 months....I go to one university in one state, and he is at a univeristy in another state. We started off long distance but we have both visited eachother. He has met my parents and I have a great relationshop with his mom. Recently he has been going through many problems...financial, health, family illness, and school. I've always been his support. Never turned my back on him. About two weeks ago he was going through a lot of stress and problems while he was at home with his family so our communication declined. A week later he breaks up with me.
his reason is that he feels like I deserve someone better. someone that will love me a lot harder. he felt as if he was wasting my time. he thinks that i have a lot going for myself and that he believes that i deserve a man who is going to give me what i need emotionally, because right now he can not give it to me. he is going through a lot, he has prayed on it and that he believes that i should move on. that it was hurting him to let me go but that he prefered that i was happy with someone else, instead of me suffering by his lack of emotion in recent times. he also said that the situation might have been different if it wasnt a long distance relationship. he then ended by saying that if over time, when we are both done wit school and that if I am still single then we can try the relationship again.
we are still close and text eachother. he comments on all my stuff on facebook, etc. feels as if we are still together except for the fact that in my head, I know that we are not. And the calls that we used to make everynight, arent there anymore either.
i do not want to move on. i understand what he is going through. plus we are both about to start an 18credit semester. so i am willing to give him his space. he needs to refocus, deal with his problems, n get his life together again...but i cannot move on....We had planned (before the breakup) for me to visit him in march/april. The plans havent been cancelled. I asked him about it and he said that he would love for me to still come, but only time could tell how things are in march/april. so i am thinking, maybe during that time we can work things out? maybe being together for a while can bring us closer? maybe we can get back together.........or maybe i got my hopes up????
I am doing my BEST to give him his space. And I've always said that if ur heart is filled with faith then u cant fear....so i have faith that we will get back together....but i would also like to hear other's opinions on my sittuation. should i move on like he is telling me to? should i wait? is this a breakup? or a simple "break"?
his reason is that he feels like I deserve someone better. someone that will love me a lot harder. he felt as if he was wasting my time. he thinks that i have a lot going for myself and that he believes that i deserve a man who is going to give me what i need emotionally, because right now he can not give it to me. he is going through a lot, he has prayed on it and that he believes that i should move on. that it was hurting him to let me go but that he prefered that i was happy with someone else, instead of me suffering by his lack of emotion in recent times. he also said that the situation might have been different if it wasnt a long distance relationship. he then ended by saying that if over time, when we are both done wit school and that if I am still single then we can try the relationship again.
we are still close and text eachother. he comments on all my stuff on facebook, etc. feels as if we are still together except for the fact that in my head, I know that we are not. And the calls that we used to make everynight, arent there anymore either.
i do not want to move on. i understand what he is going through. plus we are both about to start an 18credit semester. so i am willing to give him his space. he needs to refocus, deal with his problems, n get his life together again...but i cannot move on....We had planned (before the breakup) for me to visit him in march/april. The plans havent been cancelled. I asked him about it and he said that he would love for me to still come, but only time could tell how things are in march/april. so i am thinking, maybe during that time we can work things out? maybe being together for a while can bring us closer? maybe we can get back together.........or maybe i got my hopes up????
I am doing my BEST to give him his space. And I've always said that if ur heart is filled with faith then u cant fear....so i have faith that we will get back together....but i would also like to hear other's opinions on my sittuation. should i move on like he is telling me to? should i wait? is this a breakup? or a simple "break"?
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