[Ahryin]

Ok so it just hit me that this weekend my SO admitted to Googling my name? He has not been the same since we got back. He has only called me once when normally we speak throughout the day. I know its possible he might just be tired since he started his workouts again but not even a good night text message or good morning? Thats just not like him. I call and he doesn't pick up. I don't know whats going on. What if he googled my email? I mean he knows about this site and granted I do not regret NOT ONE post. I enjoy having somewhere I can express myself, be myself, help others and receive advice when I need it. I just don't think not everyone wants to know what their SO is thinking...does that make any sense?

[ThexMrs]

Maybe he's acting that way because of the talk. I say, Google yourself and see what it comes up with. I doubt there is anything too scary out there honey.

[Texinator]

If he Googled your email, the only results would be pages on which you're email address is actually displayed. So if you ever gave it out publicly on any forum, that page my show up, but it won't display sites on which you are registered with your email address but have never made it public.

[rcoreyus]

The ethics of googling someone aren't really clear. In one sense it is sort of like spying. On the other hand, everything on the web can be assumed to be public. I can't really fault someone for googling - it is rather natural curiosity.

Its important to realize how powerful search engines are - if your name ever appears on a page it can be found. You also can't trust any site to keep your information private - if there is something you don't want found, you need to be extremely careful that it can't be connected with your name. A careful search may find it anyway - by IP addresses and other clues.

Back to the topic though: you say he knows about the site - does he know your username? even if not, he might figure it out from context.

Of course maybe he is just tired.

[Mes T]

If he does find this site you need to explain to him that it's like your private little haven, that you REQUIRE him (and everyone else) to not snoop around here.

Sometimes posting on a forum is like having an uncensored stream of thoughts. Sometimes we post things in the heat of the moment that we don't really mean. Or maybe we're just playing around with ideas that haven't really formed yet in our minds. But if our SOs read our posts, they might not understand that. So it's really important that you set these ground rules, in the small chance that he does find this forum.

[kira]

What people start relationships and actually don't google each others screen names, emails, and occasionally real names? Never had it not happen or failed to do it myself. I do have a variety of usernames with their own purposes. Some of them were partially chosen because they won't give you any hits on a search engine. I have also told people they cannot read my posts on a forum. Occasionally my husband and I will both be looking at this site and I will tell him which threads he cannot touch. Sometimes he's on my name so I just pointed out the little marks that mean I've posted in a thread and tell him to avoid anything but the first post in those. The one time he snooped all he did was stress himself out for finding something he really didn't expect and then panicking that I was going to get upset so he listens pretty well now.

[happy ending]

i googled my sweetie when we first started seeing each other, i found out he is really a drummer in a rock band, is 28 and had sex with 1000's of women. of course this could be someone with the same name!!! all i am trying to say is, unless you are a war criminal or a fugitive from justice he is more likely just tired!

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I found facebook, no My-space though, never came up and all this real estate sites I never knew listed my business? That was good

Chandlers Wish comes up off course, but as others have said, he has to know you post here and what name your posting under and seeing as I am a friend of yours on facebook, I can't see anything you've ever written there that is a problem..

CW

[WildChild]

LOL I've often done a search on people and mostly find out that there are a bunch of people with the same name doing all sorts of stuff.

[Chantalemma]

I also Agree with everyone. There is nothing that can come up by typing your e-mail unless you posted it in forums before. I htink he might just be tired. i know that my relationship with my SO has its moments. SOmetimes he gets really cudly and can't get enough of me and other times it is hard to get a kiss out of him. I just let it be. WHen I feel liek cuddling or calling him I do and he does the same.