[deepblue]

i really dont understand that why men always in the bad mood????

can someone help what is the reason to make men be in the bad mood

[Guest]

because!

seriously, they arent always in a bad mood, but seem to get into bad moods for reasons different than women do.

[Amber]

Not all men are in constant bad moods but some are I guess. Deepblue, is it a boyfriend or a husband you are talking about? Has he been stressed out a lot lately?

[rcoreyus]

If someone is often in a bad mood, there is usually a reason. You don't make your relationship clear, but would you know about:

job stress?
Money problems (not the same thing)?
Health issues?
Family problems?
Sex (is he getting all he wants)
Relationship stress- thinking about marriage, children?
Is he torn between conflicting responsibilities?
Does he have reason to feel like a failure?

If none of the above (or a zillion other possible problems), he might be clinically depressed, but I'd look at the above first.

Men are often unwilling to discuss the above problems.

[deepblue]

well, he is my boyfriend. i knew that he has a problem about children and his ex wife who tried to hurt son and him again but now son in the hospital, yesterday he went to the hospital then he came back late at night. i didnt know what happen at the hospital why he was in the badmood he always stress and said that "please leave me alone" ...Unbelievable!! he never said like this to me before.....but after 20 mins he came back to me and he asked me, am i okay? well, i told him that i just wanted him to talk maybe gonna make him feel better, and he was in the bad mood again!! my god! and he told me " you should go back home a few days" i asked why, he said because its nothing be fun at here. Thus i told him i didnt want to be here because of funny things, its about taking care of you, stop it please....

[Sprite]

Awww hun, he is just stressed and worried.
Men aren't like woman who just let it all out...they bottle it up inside of them, stopping communication etc.

[sourpuss]

Men want to be left alone when they are under a lot of stress. He's got a kid, and ex and now his kid is in the hospital....that's a lot of stress. Don't make it about you. It's not you're deal. Just tell him that you're sorry he's going through all this and that you'll give him his space and reassure him that you're there for him if he needs.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Men want to be left alone when they are under a lot of stress. He's got a kid, and ex and now his kid is in the hospital....that's a lot of stress. Don't make it about you. It's not you're deal. Just tell him that you're sorry he's going through all this and that you'll give him his space and reassure him that you're there for him if he needs.

Totally agree.

CW

[caterpillar79]

Men want to be left alone when they are under a lot of stress.... give him his space and reassure him that you're there for him if he needs.

I definitely agree.

Wait for him initiate and then you open up. Most men want to be the hunters as usual.

[deepblue]

Thank you very much 'sourpuss' and everyone, i will. you know sometimes i feel like i cant do anything for him, the man who i really love... i just want him to be happy and smile like i had done before. i think its gonna take times, right? now his health is not quite better than before i afraid that something gonna happen to him i really cant stand that!!! ....... Anyway, should let the time to fix everything, Right??