[WildChild]

Just read this and it struck a chord.
The Golden Rule of Relationships;

Do unto yourself as you would have others do unto you.

I thought how true! How often do I treat myself as secondary, how often do I not expect to be treated as well as I should. Then I feel hurt because I'm not being treated as I want or deserve - but who set the standard?

[sourpuss]

Oh my god. True.
I've found that I'm so often disappointed that I don't get in return what I give. But I judge by my own standards of how you show love and caring and honestly, it's my own fault to expect others to think and feel the same as I do. And 9 x out of 10, I neglect myself in order to give to others, and that's just a recipe for disaster.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Love yourself first then others can love you.

The second golden rule.


Loving yourself is being totally happy with who you are, being totally yourself, regardless, if someone doesn't like that bad luck and so you move on, you only have people in your life that are positive that don't drag you down, don't bring you down.

So in loving yourself, you attract like minded people that have the same thought pattern....

[LanaBear]

And 9 x out of 10, I neglect myself in order to give to others, and that's just a recipe for disaster.

This is me to the T. I put everyone and everything ahead me, what I need or what I want.

[WildChild]

Yep, I do that too. I've been taking steps to correct it. Like if someone comes to my door when I'm in the middle of dinner and it isn't an emergency, I tell them to either write me a note or I'll talk with them later - I used to leave my meal to deal with whatever. I'm only doing "favors" for people when I want to or it's convenient, rather than just because they asked.

I got tired of being the first person people ask to do something for them and the last they ask to do something with.

[caterpillar79]

Guilty here. But eventhough I do recognize this pattern, I am still struggling be it in friendship or romance. I guess this is a life-long quest.

[sourpuss]

This is me to the T. I put everyone and everything ahead me, what I need or what I want.

I do it all the time, then I find myself resenting them! Not cool at all.

[sarahlee20]

I think I get just as much love as i give.Especially from my fiance.

[Guest]

Yep, I do that too. I've been taking steps to correct it.

Yep. An admirable trait. Fiance does this too.

I'm helping her say "no" more often. She's learning quickly.