[Guest]

Ok my boyfriend and I was going for three years and he cheated on me with his co-worker (he's a police officer). He took her away twice and on one of these trips his mom was there I felt like a fool because his family and I was so close. After a while by myself and thinking about it I forgave him and now we are getting married. He has change police station and our relationship is going GREAT even better then before his unfaithfulness. But I'm wondering if I'm making the right choice by marrying him. Do you think he truly change.

[Nygirl5885]

I don't believe that men change for women. True change happens for ones self. If you trust him then you wouldn't be asking this question would you? If i were you i would wait. see what happens. But don't ever forget if you let them get away with it the first time then why wouldn't they do it again?

[kaylar]

Never


Men never change.
He will be unfaithful to you.
He will be unfaithful to any woman.

If you marry him, make your escape
plan before the wedding.

Never trust him with your money or
your safety.

Have a place to go. Lots of friends.
So that when he doesn't come home
you won't be alone.

[Guest]

hey nygirl I really get what your saying and I will take it slow and see how things go, do you think it would make a different now that he is saved.

[Guest]

hey kaylar I really like that it was cute and gave me some ideas.(I will make my escape plans before the wedding)

[Guest]

Once cheat, always a cheat

I would think about this long and hard before you say "I do". People may change for a period of time, but there is a big chance (not always) that they will revert back to their ways. If he really loves you, then how can he even think about being with someone else?
Women are very instinctive and if you are having doubts, I would think long and hard about what you are planning to commit to.

[Nygirl5885]

read this:

Livvy i'm going to tell you a personal experience:

I went out with a guy and he always went to church and was even a youth leader. I was so inlove with him. I ended up giving him my virginity and I thought it was okay because eventually we were going to get married. time passed on and he ended up letting me know that he was cheating on me a lot. well ... the point i'm trying to tell you is not to get sucked into that whole "i'm saved" or "I am stronger because i have jesus now". not that i don't believe in God but Men are weak especially when it comes to sex. Wait and test him with time. don't just rush. Good Luck with your situation.

[kaylar]

Single Bar




Churches are the new 'singles' bar.

(This was said by one guy to another about
going to church)

They're cheaper, end earlier, and you get the
most bang for your buck.

At singles bars you have a lot of other guys going
after the same girls, it's night and it's dark, you have
to go to work tomorrow...

Churches are full of females, usually ten females to
every male. Most of the females have very low
mileage, if they aren't factory fresh.

You don't have to put your hand in your pocket
for these girls, a few 'Praise the Lords', and
that deep heartfelt 'How I accepted my Personal
Saviour..'
which goes over bigger than any of the other
lines you usually use.

It takes longer to get Church chicks into bed
but it's way cheaper, for you don't take them
out, you don't buy them anything.

You have your 'bible study' and one or another
church outing, and you start to discuss marriage
and the next thing the panties are off, and
then you can always move on to the next one
by claiming that this one seduced you...


As soon as a guy says anything about church/
saved/ start to run from then.
Don't wait.

[Guest]

Thanks so much nygirl you are like a big sister i never. You give real good advice. And i can see you get a sisters back I'll add you to my buddy list

[Guest]

thanks Ashblue, but can't agree with once a cheat always a cheat. Because I cheated on my first boyfriend,and he was madly in love with me seeing how badly I hurt him I never once did that cheating thing again and I cheated on him for 1yr and 3months to be exact.but I will take your advice and think long and hard before commiting