[sourpuss]

Thats ok CW, thanks for your post... you make me understand something. But you know i really love him, its really hard to understand.

Sometimes, i feel like im a stupid woman on earth... but i want to prove that i really love him but he shouldn't worry or thinking to much about my past... that it doesn't mean anyth for me. I do love him very much.......its really hard for me to pack my things and i leave, i gonna hurt too much. i really care him and love him.

Am i stupid right?? as i still be with him.... But 'LOVE' for me is that i scarified myself to him... like he had said that to me and he did that. Now, i really love him complete of my heart...

Any ideas??

what do you love about him? What does he love about you?

[Hopeless Dork]

What ever you did before you started going with him is none of his business. If he can't handle it the best thing you can do is leave. It won't get better.

I agree with this. My boyfriend has never asked me how many sexual partners I have had, nor have I ever asked him.

He doesn't talk about exgfs, I don't talk about xbfs... we always seem to have plenty of things to make conversation without having to go there.

I guess I am pretty lucky to have a guy that takes me as I am, not who I was, who I may become... but what I am right now, today.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Thats ok CW, thanks for your post... you make me understand something. But you know i really love him, its really hard to understand.

Sometimes, i feel like im a stupid woman on earth... but i want to prove that i really love him but he shouldn't worry or thinking to much about my past... that it doesn't mean anyth for me. I do love him very much.......its really hard for me to pack my things and i leave, i gonna hurt too much. i really care him and love him.

Am i stupid right?? as i still be with him.... But 'LOVE' for me is that i scarified myself to him... like he had said that to me and he did that. Now, i really love him complete of my heart...

Any ideas??

Sweet, I planted a thought in your mind to ponder, one that is there anyway, one that you know but refuse to accept, because you feel that you love him and don't want to see.

Your not stupid, but you don't prove love in words, it's there in your eyes, his eyes... Are you going to hurt too much? Or, can you not make it yet on your own?

Yes, LOVE is sacred, you do sacrifes but not for every man that comes into your life.. but the man that comes into your life that loves you un-conditionally. This man does not love you un-conditionally, he acquires...

Have you ever stopped to think that maybe, he's more like a father figure? The man who saved you? Took you in, helped you?

But at what cost? What pain are / will you go through knowing he is helping some other girl like he did you? What happened when he did that with you? He will be doing the same....with her...

The thing with love is what they say "IT IS BLIND". Don't be blinded and when you one day have a boyfriend around your age, if he asks? You say my past is my past, which is not much of one, but this is my present, it's not relevant.

A man who is like a Father figure, who helped you, who took you in, is always going to be like a Mentor, someone you thank, admire, trust.

You know in your heart you can not TRUST him.. You have said it yourself.

See this man for who he is, what he is. You can love what he has done, but he's feeding off your in-security, a little bit like a fishing line, reeling you in " I love you" letting you go " I don't trust you" and then like a Shark, smiling, because that made you say " No, I love you, let me prove it, I'm yours, anything you want"......

It is not the age that is making me say this. It's the way he has/is treating you and what he is doing behind your back, which he covers up.

Remember, you don't prove love, it's in his eyes, in your eyes, if words have to be stated to prove? Then you must stand up for yourself and realise you don't have to prove anything.

Please look into your future... 10 Years and your in his 30's, he in his 60's. Children? Marriage? Do you think?

I don't...

Be careful and be safe and start thinking hard on what you really have sweet.

CW

[deepblue]

what is wrong that the woman had sex with someone before, man really dont want that woman at all??? ... what is the problem with man? or he thought that he is not the first man of his woman that made him feel upset!!! Its doesnt mean that woman had sex before with two men, three times.. its mean that she is a prostitute???? why man never thought about himself...