Well, she's not technically my sister in law, she's married to my boyfriend's brother. I'm not really asking what to do because I don't have a place in this situation, but I'm curious as to what people's opinions are about this.
This girl married his brother maybe 2 years ago, I think? They were engaged after 6 months, mostly because she got pregnant. And her daughter is one of the most beautiful little girls in the world, might I add. Anyway, she's been starting problems with their family pretty much since day one. She's perfectly nice to their dad and to my boyfriend. But she's CONSTANTLY starting trouble with their mom and his sister. It's gotten to the point where it's ridiculous.
I still don't know the reason why she hates them so much... if there even IS one. She e-mails or calls their mom weekly, telling her how much of a B she is and how she's a terrible mother to her children. There was even a time where she called, then put her 2 year old daughter on the phone, saying to her that "Grammy's mean, Grammy made mommy cry" etc... TO HER GRANDMOTHER. She went to their house to give Samantha (daughter) Valentine's Day gifts and she wouldn't let her in. Then, most recently, their mom sent her a card, apologizing for everything, even though she didn't do anything wrong. She just wanted to make peace so she could see her granddaughter. And she e-mails her saying that she did not accept her apology and that she does not wish to speak with her.
As for their sister, she torments her even worse. She sends her e-mails saying that she wants to make ammends, for the family...but as soon as they talk, she starts a huge fight. Point being, she knows what she is doing, makes them think she's sincere...when really, she's bored and just likes tricking them into walking into it. She's friends with their cousin and talks about them to her all the time. She makes her Facebook statuses about how she "hates being second to her husband".
Now, you're probably wondering why her husband doesn't put a stop to it. I wonder that myself. Adam says it's because even he's afraid of his wife, and he doesn't want to risk her taking his daughter away from him. Which I understand. She doesn't let him go out with friends or anything, just work. But he doesn't defend his mother or his sister at all. He and his sister haven't spoken in god knows how long. This woman has blocked all of their numbers from calling his cell phone. Nothing spurs all the times where she goes out of her way to send awful e-mails.... she just gets bored and decides to start something.
Adam has tried time and again to talk to her about it, but it never works. She verbally attacked his sister over the phone sometime last year and he finally had enough and told her she needed to stop. Well she just blocked communication with him and continued it. Their dad wasn't going to say anything to her, but I think he's going to because apparently now she's blogging all about their family. Adam's at the point where he thinks that if his brother doesn't want to be a part of the family, then screw him. He really doesn't do anything, lets it happen.
I don't know. It's a lot of rambling. If it had anything to do with me at all, I would have said something to her by now because it's ridiculous. But it's not. I just feel really bad that their mother is taking so much.... abuse, really. And this woman doesn't feel bad about it at all. She gets such a kick out of it. Like I said, I'm not asking what to do. Just for opinions, or suggestions on what THEY should do.
This girl married his brother maybe 2 years ago, I think? They were engaged after 6 months, mostly because she got pregnant. And her daughter is one of the most beautiful little girls in the world, might I add. Anyway, she's been starting problems with their family pretty much since day one. She's perfectly nice to their dad and to my boyfriend. But she's CONSTANTLY starting trouble with their mom and his sister. It's gotten to the point where it's ridiculous.
I still don't know the reason why she hates them so much... if there even IS one. She e-mails or calls their mom weekly, telling her how much of a B she is and how she's a terrible mother to her children. There was even a time where she called, then put her 2 year old daughter on the phone, saying to her that "Grammy's mean, Grammy made mommy cry" etc... TO HER GRANDMOTHER. She went to their house to give Samantha (daughter) Valentine's Day gifts and she wouldn't let her in. Then, most recently, their mom sent her a card, apologizing for everything, even though she didn't do anything wrong. She just wanted to make peace so she could see her granddaughter. And she e-mails her saying that she did not accept her apology and that she does not wish to speak with her.
As for their sister, she torments her even worse. She sends her e-mails saying that she wants to make ammends, for the family...but as soon as they talk, she starts a huge fight. Point being, she knows what she is doing, makes them think she's sincere...when really, she's bored and just likes tricking them into walking into it. She's friends with their cousin and talks about them to her all the time. She makes her Facebook statuses about how she "hates being second to her husband".
Now, you're probably wondering why her husband doesn't put a stop to it. I wonder that myself. Adam says it's because even he's afraid of his wife, and he doesn't want to risk her taking his daughter away from him. Which I understand. She doesn't let him go out with friends or anything, just work. But he doesn't defend his mother or his sister at all. He and his sister haven't spoken in god knows how long. This woman has blocked all of their numbers from calling his cell phone. Nothing spurs all the times where she goes out of her way to send awful e-mails.... she just gets bored and decides to start something.
Adam has tried time and again to talk to her about it, but it never works. She verbally attacked his sister over the phone sometime last year and he finally had enough and told her she needed to stop. Well she just blocked communication with him and continued it. Their dad wasn't going to say anything to her, but I think he's going to because apparently now she's blogging all about their family. Adam's at the point where he thinks that if his brother doesn't want to be a part of the family, then screw him. He really doesn't do anything, lets it happen.
I don't know. It's a lot of rambling. If it had anything to do with me at all, I would have said something to her by now because it's ridiculous. But it's not. I just feel really bad that their mother is taking so much.... abuse, really. And this woman doesn't feel bad about it at all. She gets such a kick out of it. Like I said, I'm not asking what to do. Just for opinions, or suggestions on what THEY should do.
). But many never seem to grow out of that "thriving off drama" phase. Not to mention I grew up with 2 brothers, no sisters, so I can understand the mentality of just not getting caught up in that carp. I've never understood why so many people get off on making huge waves.
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