[sarahlee20]

Your good with advice CW.

Rema, I think he's being sensible. He's looking at the finances, a house, picked fence, children, you've talked about marriage so you've talked about how you visualise it, what you see right?

And, he's realised that he can't do all that, your 20, probably not in a great job yet? But maybe a job, he's viewed your combined income and thought how?

If someone loves you they love you, marriage can wait, it doesn't mean you own them and phew, that's it, I'm safe, by a piece of paper, in fact it can give you all sorts of problems if you are not ready financially.

Here's a suggestion, how about starting a joint account together, start putting what you can aside for the "future", see your "future grow", ask for a promise ring, for now and then when he can afford an engagement ring, work out your dream and how much you need to have it and then how you can afford to get it and work it.

Sounds more to me that you are wanting to walk just to make him want, perhaps he does. He is just viewing like a smart future husband on the hows and feeling it's not the right time.

Don't pressure him, instead work towards your future together of what ever those obsticles are and start jumping them..

Watch the difference, without the stress, with a plan and how much you two will be happier and enjoy the next 12 months together.

Think about it.

CW

I agree with CW. I wish my fiance thought that way I'm the more responisable one in that case. But thats just my situation. Be lucky
that he's mature and wants to wait and get things together first. It's good he wants to be a good husband and make sure you have those things. As also for what CW said you may grow alot in the next couple years and maybe want different things. It's lately how I've been feeling. I got engaged at 20 just turned 20 and now almost 2 years later i am beginning to feel different.. However mines a different story... SO GL and CW your good with advice

[Rema R]

thanx for the input people...makes me feel a lot better...i think him and all of you are right...