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  • kygirl
    Veteran Member
    • Sep 2009
    • 1058

    Is it my place to say something?

    Got to see the beau this weekend and I was sooo glad... We got to spend all day together yesterday with no real plans but spending time with each other. It was wonderful

    So, here's my question...Most of you know he's going through a divorce. He is still hoping the house will sell but if not, he has repeatedly apologized for the delay and is planning to get this wrapped up soon one way or another...

    BUT.... He still has their wedding invitation on the wall. It's in a small frame and I'm sure it's been there forever so he probably doesn't even realize it, but I do... I always see it and I always wonder when he's going to take it down. He took down any pictures that were still floating around of her, so I don't believe he's holding on to something (he took down the pics after our first date). But I also don't want to come across as controlling. I'm not sure how to bring it up or if I'm just thinking too much about it...
    [COLOR="Magenta"]If you smile when no one else is around, you really mean it.
    -Andy Rooney[/COLOR]

    [COLOR="DeepSkyBlue"]It is discouraging how many people are shocked by honesty and how few by deceit.--Noel Coward [/COLOR]

    [COLOR="DarkOrchid"]Live your life and forget your age. --Norman Vincent Peale[/COLOR]
  • pretzel
    Veteran Member
    • Oct 2009
    • 1557

    "Would you mind if we took down the picture of your old wedding invitation?"

    My guess, it'll be down before you got the sentence finished.

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    • kygirl
      Veteran Member
      • Sep 2009
      • 1058

      Originally posted by pretzel
      "Would you mind if we took down the picture of your old wedding invitation?"

      My guess, it'll be down before you got the sentence finished.
      Thanks P. I was guessing he probably hasn't even thought about it (the only pics he previously had up were on the fridge so very in your face type thing. This is kinda off to itself.

      I just wanted to make sure it didn't sound bad.
      [COLOR="Magenta"]If you smile when no one else is around, you really mean it.
      -Andy Rooney[/COLOR]

      [COLOR="DeepSkyBlue"]It is discouraging how many people are shocked by honesty and how few by deceit.--Noel Coward [/COLOR]

      [COLOR="DarkOrchid"]Live your life and forget your age. --Norman Vincent Peale[/COLOR]

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      • pretzel
        Veteran Member
        • Oct 2009
        • 1557

        Originally posted by kygirl
        Thanks P. I was guessing he probably hasn't even thought about it (the only pics he previously had up were on the fridge so very in your face type thing. This is kinda off to itself.

        I just wanted to make sure it didn't sound bad.
        No need to thank me.

        If he's anything like me, like you said, he probably didn't even remember it was there.

        My wife did some redecorating last week. She got mad at me because I didn't notice it right away. But she doesn't realize that we have so much stuff around our house that the only way I'd notice anything was if it hit me in the face.

        Decorating isn't real high on my list of things to be aware of.

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        • Ashlee T.
          Veteran Member
          • Dec 2008
          • 6412

          We all handle things differently, but I would certainly feel like if I was seriously dating this person, I'd feel a little strange to have to see a wedding invitation of he and his ex wife. I would think if he could take down all the other stuff, he could take down the invitation. So ya, I'd say something...not in a "why is this still here" kind of way, but just a sort of something like Pretzel said.
          "Be what you're looking for."

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          • Fatin
            Senior Member
            • Feb 2009
            • 171

            yeah i will go with Pretzel just go with it easy ..
            [FONT="Comic Sans MS"] "Nothing is impossible, if your heart is willing" ☺ ..[/FONT]

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            • kygirl
              Veteran Member
              • Sep 2009
              • 1058

              Just an update... The invitation has been taken down
              [COLOR="Magenta"]If you smile when no one else is around, you really mean it.
              -Andy Rooney[/COLOR]

              [COLOR="DeepSkyBlue"]It is discouraging how many people are shocked by honesty and how few by deceit.--Noel Coward [/COLOR]

              [COLOR="DarkOrchid"]Live your life and forget your age. --Norman Vincent Peale[/COLOR]

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              • pretzel
                Veteran Member
                • Oct 2009
                • 1557

                Originally posted by kygirl
                Just an update... The invitation has been taken down
                Now there's a major suprise.

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                • kygirl
                  Veteran Member
                  • Sep 2009
                  • 1058

                  Originally posted by pretzel
                  Now there's a major suprise.
                  I know... an "I told you so" is totally in order...
                  [COLOR="Magenta"]If you smile when no one else is around, you really mean it.
                  -Andy Rooney[/COLOR]

                  [COLOR="DeepSkyBlue"]It is discouraging how many people are shocked by honesty and how few by deceit.--Noel Coward [/COLOR]

                  [COLOR="DarkOrchid"]Live your life and forget your age. --Norman Vincent Peale[/COLOR]

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                  • pretzel
                    Veteran Member
                    • Oct 2009
                    • 1557

                    Originally posted by kygirl
                    I know... an "I told you so" is totally in order...
                    No it's not, not really anyway.

                    You're young, in love, life's good.

                    Have fun with it, every day. (That's the "I told you so")

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