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  • Ashlee T.
    Veteran Member
    • Dec 2008
    • 6412

    Update!!!!!

    My BF got GREAT news today and I was glad to get to be there with him for it. Negative test results. TOTALLY negative. No chance of him passing on this genetic order to his children, no chance of him developing the disease.

    I know what a relief it is for him, I can only imagine the weight off his shoulders. And it feels pretty darn good to know that he's okay and that he can live his life now like anyone else with the same opportunities as anyone else.

    GREAT way to end the week.
    "Be what you're looking for."

  • LanaBear
    Veteran Member
    • Jul 2009
    • 8373

    I've read all your posts regarding this and your turmoil with everything. I'm so glad to hear this! Hopefully this can be a good start to another chapter in your life!

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    • happy ending
      Veteran Member
      • Oct 2008
      • 869

      that is so awesome, congratulations, the news really couldnt be better, break out the champers!!!!

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      • WildChild
        Banned
        • Sep 2008
        • 14142

        Now you both know what you are dealing with. Where do you go from here?

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        • sourpuss
          Veteran Member
          • Dec 2006
          • 3581

          Originally posted by WildChild
          Now you both know what you are dealing with. Where do you go from here?
          Good question.

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          • Ashlee T.
            Veteran Member
            • Dec 2008
            • 6412

            That is a very good question! Where do we go from here? Now, for the first time since only a few mths into our relationship, I feel I can really start to take a look at the way things REALLY are and not have to constantly question myself "Am I feeling this way because of the HD?" "Am I pulling away and putting my guard up because we're not right for each other, or because I'm scared of the possibility of HD in his future". Incompatibilities, things that tick me off or get on my nerves.......I can really look at those things now from a normal perspective without that negative gloom hanging over my head. And now if things dont work out, it's because we're not compatible......not because he's been given a death sentence. And that is very much a sense of relief for me.

            For him, I believe this will give him a confidence he's never had. A "I am a good man, and I'm worthy of a great relationship" confidence, rather than a "She's doing me a favor by being with me" mentality that I believe he has had due to the gloom and doom possibilities he's been facing for 10 years. I believe this will take a weight off his shoulders that is incomprehendable to me, or to most anyone. And I'm so grateful of that for him.

            I think that now, we can truly have our relationship just like anyone else would, and really be able to look at whether or not we believe we can get past our incompatibilities, whether we can truly be happy together, or whether we need to peace and part ways. And knowing that if it doesn't work out with me, he CAN find someone and have a family and have the life he wants.......that makes me feel pretty darn good. I guess you could say this takes alot of pressure off me as well.
            "Be what you're looking for."

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            • WildChild
              Banned
              • Sep 2008
              • 14142

              Good! This is a win/win no matter how it goes then. I'll bet he'll spend some time wondering why he let himself live in doubt for so long.

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              • Hopeless Dork
                Veteran Member
                • Dec 2008
                • 4255

                Oh, thank God. I am so happy for you guys It likely did effect his self-worth so I see that aspect of relationshp only improving !! And no matter what happens he doesn't have to worry about whether or not you are with him out of pity, or with him with regrets and worry. He can rest assured that you are with him because you want to be, and are happy do so -- and that will boost his confidence increddibly which will benefit both of you. Congrats
                Scars remind us of where we've been...they don't have to dictate where we're going.

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                • Ashlee T.
                  Veteran Member
                  • Dec 2008
                  • 6412

                  Yep, it's pretty darn awesome. This should definitely be a life changing thing for him. And LOTS of pressure off both of us where our relationship is concerned.
                  "Be what you're looking for."

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                  • CHANDLERS WISH
                    • Mar 2008
                    • 22440

                    BD, your beautiful. Why? Cause all you can do is scream happiness for him
                    PUT A LITTLE 'LIKE' IN MY SOUL!

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