[happy ending]

beautiful disaster i dont really know you but it seems to me you cant love him because your not ready to get married, and we always feel doubts, we always have issues, i am sorry but no relationship is ever perfect, unless its on a soap opera and we know the charactor is about to get struck down with a terminal disease. it sort of sounds to me like you protest too much fair lady!

[Ashlee T.]

it seems to me you cant love him because your not ready to get married

Perhaps. It would be nice if I could just love and not have to feel the pressures from society to marry etc. Then, maybe I'd WANT to get married.

I hope that no one thinks I'm searching for perfection, some sort of perfect relationship from a fairy tale. I'm way too practical for that. My last post was just an attempt to explain why it freaked me out so much when he said the L word.

No perfect man, no perfect relationship.....no perfect anything. I don't expect that. But I also don't want to force myself into a "love" relationship, followed by marriage and babies..........just because it's what I "should" do according to society.

I guess with this fella, it'd just be nice if there could be a period of time in our relationship with no pressure. First it was the disease, and all the feelings that came along with that for both of us. Then a week after we get great news and the pressure is for once in our relationship RELIEVED, he drops the L word on me, almost like a precursor to "I love you". I feel like I'm always "supposed" to be feeling something, and would just like to go with the flow and feel what I feel.

[happy ending]

no i dont think you are expecting perfection, i dont think he wants to pressure you, more just share his feelings. i know what you mean about people expecting you to get married. why dont they just mind their own business!

i hope i'm not harassing you, but your posts have got me thinking.