[jessemct85]

Ok so my ex and I split in Sept. I miss him so much. I had a very lonely night and instead of going to him I had a fling, now I'm 7 months pregnant, was on the pill and even used a condom. We talk almost daily and he is my best friend. Even in my current situation he has been there for me. I haven't seen him since Sept. though. He just recently helped me to go out of town when my Grandmother passed away. I am not able to pay him back so I offered to cook him dinner. He accepted and now I am sooooo uber nervous!!! I want so bad to tell him how I feel I am just so scared of how he may respond given my situation! Any ideas?

[Ashlee T.]

Sounds like he cares about you, despite the situation. Honesty is the best policy...and I think you just need to be honest with him about your feelings. However, the key will be to be able to be honest with him and not have expectations of what to receive from him in return. In other words, don't expect him to reciprocate your feelings, just be honest and get your feelings off your chest. You've got a beautiful child coming into your life VERY soon and I'm sure it's a very nervous insecure time for you right now. You really need to focus on you, the baby, and your alls life together....just the two of you. Any one else should be an addition, not a necessity.

So...if you tell him how you feel, and he reciprocates...great. If he doesn't, then it's not the end of the world for you, you've got LOTS of things to look forward to.

[kygirl]

I agree with BD. Stuff happens. I mean, I'm a little spiritual I guess, but all that AND you still had the baby to me would play out as a little miracle. I know you still care about him and it seems like he still cares about you too. I think you should tell him, but also let him know that I appreciate all he's done and being there for you.

Just remember that he might not reciprocate, and if he doesn't, like BD said, there is sooo much going on with you and especially now, the most important thing to focus on is you and the baby. Is the baby's dad around?? Does he know?

[jessemct85]

Thank you so much! I haven't really had anyone to talk to about all this. The father is kind of around. We tried to build a relationship but we are way too different. He's not a bad guy but he is I think mentally too young and he hasn't really been there throughout this pregnancy.