[grrrr]

I love these types of stories! Everyone needs to have a love adventure at least once, even if it's just a day trip to meet up with someone wth whom you had/have feelings for!!!

Just don't drink the water! A week in the bathroom with foul movements from ALL ends would be FAR worse than shaving!

Have fun, relax, and keep in touch after your fun week!

[lucybelle]

Just don't drink the water! A week in the bathroom with foul movements from ALL ends would be FAR worse than shaving!

Oh goodness! Too true! I'll definitely post here again after the trip to let the world know how it goes=)

[lucybelle]

Romantic adventure update! And advice?

So I'm not sure how many people remember me posting, but I just got back from my trip to Mexico. Here's a quick summary: I met a guy in Mexico a year ago when I was living there, we hit it off, I came back to the states, we stayed in contact, I went to visit last week.

Well I had a fantastically wonderful time!!! My goodness it was great to see him and the country again. Flying into Mexico, I felt like I was coming home. It was a crazy feeling. Leaving was very sad.

I now have even stronger feelings for my "friend". Being with him feels so... *right*. You know? He even took me to meet his family. They are all super nice and like me a lot (even though I'm tall and blonde teehehe). He plans on coming to visit me in January or February. Ugh it seems sooooo far away.

So now I'm wondering... is it possible to have this international "relationship"? I'm 23 and he's 29, so it's sort of an age difference, but I feel like we're on the same page with our lives. Neither of us want to get married for a couple years, and don't want kids for even longer. I asked him what we "are", just friends? He said of course not, that I am the women that he loves. That we are much more than friends. That if we lived close, we would be boyfriend/girlfriend. But... we don't live close. I'm worried about putting my life on hold for him, and then things not work out. This past year I did go on some dates and hook up with some guys and it felt so wrong. I felt like I was cheating! I don't know that I can do that again. I want a boyfriend (I've been single about 5 years), but I don't want anyone to be my boyfriend except him. It's such a strange situation. Should I stay loyal to him and hope for the best? Or move on and try to find someone who is close? Any advice would be great!

Thanks!

[WildChild]

Merged with your earlier thread so readers will know what you are refering to.

[sourpuss]

In my personal opinion, I think you should stay in touch but you should keep your options open. Mexico is a long way away, January is a long way away. If you do become an item, are you willing to move to Mexico? What would you do for work there? Where would you live? Those are things you'd have to think about. If you want him to move to you, then you have to get married to 'your special friend' without ever having a normal dating>long-term relationship type thing. Just things to think about.
While it's sweet and romantic, you have to be practical as well.

[lucybelle]

Thanks Sourpuss, I completely agree with everything you said. I feel like we are being fairly realistic about it, in that we are not in a relationship. He even mentioned that if I have a boyfriend by January that he wouldn't want to mess it up by coming to visit.

As far as would I be willing to move? Yeah maybe for a couple years. I love it down there. I know I don't want to live there forever but a few years would be fine. The problem is I have a 3 year comitment to teach here in the states. So I wouldn't be able to move for at least 3 years. (and like you said, that's a long time and a lot could happen) I think I could find a job alright because they always need English speakers to handle the tourists who don't speak Spanish.

As far as him moving here? We haven't really talked about it. He wants to finish up his degree (1 more year). I would love it if he moved here. He already got a visa, and I've already secretly planned how he could stay here! He could go take classes at a college for a semester. If he likes living with me in the states, then we get married. We're both still so young that I don't think I'd mind getting married just for the of it. If it goes horribly wrong, then we can still go our separate ways and find other people.

Yeah it might just be a disaster waiting to happen, but I'm no good with having the "what if" feeling.