[grrrr]

That's the annoying thing! She just won't let it go. If you are light and breezy with her, she'll find the next lull in the conversation to drag the poor horse out and beat it again! She doesn't "take the hint" even though it's totally out there! She knows it. It's like she's needling just to be annoying... she's very clever.... not in fashion or in the kitchen, but about how to get under people's skin.... very very clever....

Thank you Yvee, I'll try it again, but thankfully it won't be until June! Hopefully I won't be annoyed any more and this thing will have washed over some in my mind!

Thanks again to everyone for your insight, and for making me laugh as well!

[grrrr]

It's official. I'm throwing the towel in....Uncle and Shrew are going to Portugal in June. Shrew is BRINGING A FRIEND. I'm at a loss for words, but he's clearly a sychophant.... and I really have nothing to say at this point.

I'm done. I just don't care anymore. I've drawn the line in the sand.

[Ashlee T.]

Bringing along a girlfriend? What's wrong with that? *ducks and covers face with shield*

[Ahryin]

lol --> beautiful disaster!

[grrrr]

No kidding! That's the first thing that I thought!

Apparently she's a single straight female, and Shrew and the gal pal are going to have fun together while leaving Uncle alone.... I'm over all of it. This is like "real life Jerry Springer" - he's opened the door to it and I'm done.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I think you love your Uncle so much, that you can't see 10 years, you can see, "your not good enough for him"...

Have you ever asked your Uncle what he thinks of his lady friend?

I think as your protective of your sister, your protective of him.

And, that she knows this, that you don't like her, didn't like her from get go and is heck bent on trying to "get in" to the family.

Maybe they aren't close. Maybe this girlfriend is there because otherwise, she'd be bored, maybe they have run their course, maybe your wish will come true

But, I can see that your protecting him... and therefore, nothing she will say or do will ever be okay because you have this feeling, that she's just not good for him, to him...

CW

[grrrr]

CW - I always love and revere your wisdom and advice.... but no.

She's a money grubbing succubus.... and frankly he's willing to take it, so again, hands clean.

Line drawn! I'm done.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

Then your protecting him You don't like her, she's after his money, she wants to get married so she can get some of it....

So you do have this feeling, she's not good for him, to him

Curious though, because our gut feelings are usually correct, what makes you think that? What has she said, or he said, that makes your gut tell you that?

And, if you are correct in that anology, then clearly you have a right to tell him, that you love him, don't trust her and really, really respect him, want to see him but from now on, your deeply sorry but you don't and can't communicate with her...

CW

[grrrr]

It's funny that you mention bringing up talking to him about it - we can't.... tell him point blank what we think of her.... for fear of alienating either of them. Uncle would be offended, and that wouldn't be good.

I actually worked for the same company shrew did a few years ago, and frankly, liked her.... there was never bad blood between us (honestly, she's so oblivious, that she doesn't even know that there is) until she just showed "her true colors" - which are tacky.

Uncle is an odd duck. Always has been, always will be. He's made his bed, I don't know why he's chosen burlap sheets, but he has, and now he has to itchy-scratchy sleep in them!

And my "gut" tells me that she's dreadful b/c my middle name is "Clair Voyant!" (even though I know that it's one word.