[BasketCase]

Is that strange?

[Mes T]

... Wat? I'm missing something...

[LanaBear]

um, please do explain...

[BasketCase]

Oh yea I guess I assumed yall would instantly understand. lol I guess not which assures me that this is strange. Well there'e this girl That I am really into. Sexualy. Of course I haven't told her, to be honest I don't really know her, but man everytime I look at her I blush, I get jitters. It's soo weird. I am with a man and very happy. Not sure how to take this.

[LanaBear]

I think it is kind of common to want to explore your sexuality when you are younger, heck even when you are older, whatever floats your boat.

BUT and the big BUT here is that you are happily in a relationship. If you feel the need to explore things a bit more, you need to have a heart to heart with that man of yours. You need to tell him what you are feeling, get his take on the whole thing. Is he okay with you exploring this? Where is the line in his eyes? And the other question, is the other gal into this as well. A lot of land to explore, just need to be open and honest with everyone involved.

[BasketCase]

No I don't know her very well and yet she's on my mind. Not exactly something I want to explore. I am just curious as to why I am having these feelings

[Mes T]

Sometimes even people in happy relationships get the "hots" for someone else. Usually it stays as a harmless fantasy thing, and in the cases where it doesn't it can obviously cause problems.

Are you confused about being attracted to someone else in general or about the fact that she's a girl?

[LanaBear]

Meh, I'd imagine just plain ole curiosity, no harm, no foul. Most have been there and have experienced the same curiosity. It's relatively normal and harmless.

[BasketCase]

Sometimes even people in happy relationships get the "hots" for someone else. Usually it stays as a harmless fantasy thing, and in the cases where it doesn't it can obviously cause problems.

Are you confused about being attracted to someone else in general or about the fact that she's a girl?

The fact that she's a girl I guess.

[Ashlee T.]

I'm attracted to women, a certain type, a certain look, a certain demeanor. Mostly it's women who have a happy medium of feminity and masculinity. I find myself staring at them, admiring them etc. But when push comes to shove, it's not something I've ever truly had any desire to explore. I've thought about it, but can't even really picture it in my head. To me, it's just a natural instinct, I'm comfortable with myself, and I'm OK with being attracted to a woman. I've realized that being attracted doesn't necessarily mean I have desire to go down that road, and that's okay too. What you're feeling is fine, sounds like a "girl crush". It's fine. If you start getting the urges to act on it, like seriously act on it, you may want to have a talk with the BF.