[CHANDLERS WISH]

Sometimes you just need to sit back and "see"

I think if you focus on "proving" to them, then there is no equality and no need to tell you the truth, it's kind of "easy" to get past it if that makes sense.

But, I think if you now focus on they have to earn "your trust", you already know who you are, what you are, there is nothing to prove, then they will fight to win that and in that you just may find better souls

I don't mean for you to not DO anything, let things happen as they may I do know that works the best, when your not looking and you've given up, it does happen....

I am saying, if you actively search, then sometimes your mind plays tricks, because your searching for reasons such as lonliness, and so you don't mean to, you don't realise, but you take what you can get, you settle.

So I am saying, by all means, believe, by all means get out there put it out into the Universe, this is what I am after and sit back and let it come to you. That is what I am saying

Believe... and use that intuition.. don't work on them trusting you, your trustworthy. You work on letting them show you that you should believe in them, trust them because they show it to you over and over..... with time.....

Yeah not a bad place huh? x

[Fae30]

Oh, now I understand what you mean! You're absolutely right! :-D
Thank you so much! :-)
That's all so very true, I do not need to focus on looking, but letting them come find me instead!
LOL! This, by far, have been the most helpful venting I've had in a long time!
And I do need to switch focus now, if someone should come along. I think I will not slam the door on people, as I have been doing since the last break-up. I do know that not everyone who comes knocking is the right person or will be so, but NOW... I have a new thought and direction with it. I think I'll be little less non-trusting, as far as giving a person a chance to show me (not just tell me!) why I should open the door, instead of assuming that it's all bad from the start and throwing my full body weight into it. And with time, lots of time, I'll let them prove how real they are, instead of worrying about proving to them how real I am to them! :-)

Yikes! I have been making it easy for people before. I didn't realize that, until now. LOL!