I've known my friend and housemate for 7 years. We worked together for 3. And I had a massive crush on him. At the time I was a very big girl, obese. I knew nothing more than friendship was on offer from him, especially after a few very clumsy flirtations. I ended up moving away for work and because I wanted to give myself a chance at forming other relationships. I still kept in touch with him, he is a very funny man and a great friend. I had a few dates but compared everyone to him.
I ended up moving back because I missed family and friends. After years of dieting I decided to have surgery to lose the weight. I got a new job and met a great guy through friends. He was funny and we had a fair bit in common. At the time I was living at home and wanted out. My friend suggested we rent together and as I was in a relationship and exceptionally happy I thought why not. I still had feelings for him but didn't think much of it because of the feelings I had for the man I was seeing.
A couple months ago things started going wrong in my relationship. I found out that while i wanted to make plans for our future he was happy with just letting things slide along the way they were. I felt at times like I was mothering him and not being a girlfriend. We ended up splitting, it was mutual but it hurt and I was angry. My friend had become pretty good friends with my ex by then and though he I was his friend first he still sociallises with him regularly.
Last week I went out with them and a bunch of other friends. I had a great time but drank way too much. My housemate and I got a cab home and stumbed inside. He kissed me goodnight outside our bedroom doors. It was amazing and completely unexpected. I said goonight and went my room where I promptly burst into tears. Then he knocked on my door. I ended up in his room. We enjoyed ourselves greatly but were too drunk to do much. I've lost 80 pounds (40 kg) lighter than when we first met. He has been avoiding me slot and told me he thinks it was a mistake that shouldn't have happened.
I still have feelings for him but am unsure about whether to tell him or just leave it be. Should I risk it all or move out and on. I like living with him but I'm not sure how to move past this.
I ended up moving back because I missed family and friends. After years of dieting I decided to have surgery to lose the weight. I got a new job and met a great guy through friends. He was funny and we had a fair bit in common. At the time I was living at home and wanted out. My friend suggested we rent together and as I was in a relationship and exceptionally happy I thought why not. I still had feelings for him but didn't think much of it because of the feelings I had for the man I was seeing.
A couple months ago things started going wrong in my relationship. I found out that while i wanted to make plans for our future he was happy with just letting things slide along the way they were. I felt at times like I was mothering him and not being a girlfriend. We ended up splitting, it was mutual but it hurt and I was angry. My friend had become pretty good friends with my ex by then and though he I was his friend first he still sociallises with him regularly.
Last week I went out with them and a bunch of other friends. I had a great time but drank way too much. My housemate and I got a cab home and stumbed inside. He kissed me goodnight outside our bedroom doors. It was amazing and completely unexpected. I said goonight and went my room where I promptly burst into tears. Then he knocked on my door. I ended up in his room. We enjoyed ourselves greatly but were too drunk to do much. I've lost 80 pounds (40 kg) lighter than when we first met. He has been avoiding me slot and told me he thinks it was a mistake that shouldn't have happened.
I still have feelings for him but am unsure about whether to tell him or just leave it be. Should I risk it all or move out and on. I like living with him but I'm not sure how to move past this.
I'd been coming to that decision too. I just hope we can both move past any awkwardness and remain friends.
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