[ladypelham]

i really dont undertand what is wrong as i had have sex with men before him?............. can someone tell me the good reason?

[Olympia]

Good and Bad. The past is the past.
You are now...
To lie may not have been a good choice. But to sleep with another to balance the relationship...??? You are not a piece of property with a remote control. If he truly loves you..... he will accept your disclosure.

i dont know every men gonna be like this???

And, NO... all men are not like that.

[ladypelham]

All the things that happened for my past it was 2 years ago before i met him. Now he said he tried and gonna be better soon, or sometime we argued he always talke about the past that made me sad because i want him to get over it and think just the present right now....

Now only thing i can do just try to be happy like normal.

[WildChild]

He has a some serious issues. 2 men and you are 24 yrs old? How have you managed to have so few? Obviously there is a reason that he is still single in his 50s - he's the one with the problem.

[BloodyMoonLight]

break up with him!!! not only is he an old fart that cant even get it up, he is a complete pervert and hes gonna die in a few years! u r totally wasting ur time with him! he doesnt love u..he just wants a trophy...a young girl....
b4 u break up with him though make sure u give him head and bite his weiner

[TWills32]

You need to think about your future. Do you really want to be with this man? You are young! You could have a man closer to your age, and have a real life together. Do you ever want to get married? Have children? Grow old together? Think about what YOU want, truly. It sounds like this guy is super controlling. A man trying to get you to have sex with another man is just an act of control. He looks at you as a possession, not a person.

[BabyGirl]

Firstly, He is old enough to be your father. I'm not saying that " May/December relationships" cannot work, but the ones who do are ones where the Younger is More mature and Elder is more youthfull and somehow they meet in the middle ages.

Secondly. from what you are saying, he is very controlling and demanding and unforgiving.
Do you work ? Do you have hobbies, friends, can you come and go as you please ? Or is he your only money source and you have no " Life" without him or his " Support" .

Thirdly. You say you Love him and he loves you.
He does not LOVE YOU. Loving is kind and gentle, Forgiving and Supportive ( of Body, Mind and Soul ).

Ask yourself Why do you Love him ? Make a list of all the Good things about him. Ones that make you feel happy and sexy and special and Loved.
Then make a list of the things that make you sad or fearful or uncomfortable or used or abused..

Fourth.. Most Men and Women who love each other do NOT want the one they Love to have Sex with anyone other than themselves, of course there are exceptions with Swinger and free style relationships.

Fifth ( and I don't reccomend this unless you have a place to go and can support yourself and are comfortable with it)..

But I would offer to sleep with two guys Of YOUR CHOICE, Pick Young Sexy guys and just have a ball with them. And tell him He can't be involved in it at all.

Then give him a glass of Beer and some Viagra and walk out that door Arm in Arm with both of those Sexy Young Hunks.. Or have them carry your bags for you. Lol

[stressed]

1. The age difference and his demands just don't make sense at all. Has he ever been married? Does he have children? What happened in his last relationship?

2. How did you two meet? Excuse me, but I find it hard to believe that you got together because you have so many things in common.

3. He seems to consider you a possession of his, not someone he has a relationship with. Definitely not somebody he loves. He wants someone he can have control over.

4. What do you like about him? Are you financially dependent on him? Do you have a family you can go to if you break up with him? Do you have a job?

This doesn't sound like a healthy relationship to me. Him starting arguments about how many men you have had sex with is the least problem I'd be concerned about. Be careful with the choices you make, as some of them will come back to you and bite you.

[SaharaJim]

Lady Pelham...the more I think about this the more I think "something else" is going on. Was there something that happened in the relationship that he was embarassed or angered by prior to his "discovery" of this "lie"? This seems to me like a "manufactured "reason to get rid of you. Find some fault ...make a totally unreasonable demand to correct the fault...when she refuses you are "justified' in dumping her.
Is he having some ED problems and "blaming it on your "sexual past"? Just a "shot in the dark" here but I find his behavior totally irrational UNLESS he is seeking an "excuse" to either dump you or drive you away.

[Allie602]

He is bad news. You are too young and inexperienced to recognize what an old creep he is. He is counting on your naïvety to overlook his obvious perverted views of woman. Young men would not care a fig that you have had 2 previous relationships, the number is lower than average. This man is crazy and he will try to make you crazy so you wont see him for what he is.

I am going to consult my crystal ball - ahhhhh here is what I see - 2 yrs in the future, the honeymoon is over and you look at this 52 yo man in the light of day, who you now find rather repulsive, he still has crazy notions about women and sex, he been trying to get you to sleep with 2 men at once while he watches because he is having age-related problems getting aroused, luckily you are not married to the creep and you are 26, still young but wiser. You wonder how you got yourself into this mess and why no one warned you. Consider yourself warned.