[FindingSelf22]

I have been in love with the same man since I was 16 years old. I'm 22 years old and I can not get over him. Its been about four months now since my six year relationship ended with him. He was the first man I brought to my family, the only man have had sex with, the only man I have ever falling in love with and still is. The relationship definitely had its ups and downs but we somehow managed it for six years before calling it quite. His parents hates me and think he can do way much better than me. He likes to please his parents so now he is with this girl his parents want him to date. Along with that, his parents blocked my number so I won't have any access to him. I never knew there was such an excruciating pain like this till him and I broke up. Today that excruciating pain returned; but 100 times more worse. I saw some pictures he took with his new girlfriend. Didn't know my heart can be shattered into pieces again but it definitely did. I want to get pass this pain I am feeling and move on with my life but I do not know how. The last couple of months have been so painful its unbearable. I am trying to hold on tight and not lose control but I am slipping away slowly. Each passing seconds is like me being thrown in a fire. I miss him so much and wish him and I are back together. How do I get pass this???

[sexybabe]

At this point, it's best not to know anything about them. Resist any urge to look at his pictures especially now that he has a new girlfriend. He'll be posting new pictures of them for sure.

I know EXACTLY how you feel honey. I am going through a difficult breakup myself. My ex boyfriend, the love of my life, the only one I loved so deeply in my life left me and hooked up with another girl 5 months after we separated. It shattered me to pieces, shook me to my very core. But you see, life goes on and you WILL get past this. You just have to hold on tight and brace yourself for the ride. There is what we call the 'grief process' and you just have to be patient and allow yourself to feel all of those emotions... that is necessary for your healing. You will get through this, trust me. We've been separated for 7 months now and I thought I'd never be ok. On really bad days I'd cry my eyeballs out and wish I would just die. But you see, time does heal all wounds. I'm not saying that I'm 100% ok now, I am still in pain but it has become so much a part of my daily life that it eventually became bearable. So you just hang in there. Everything will be alright in time. *Hugs*

[Ashlee T.]

Very good advice from sexybabe. May be a good idea to go back and read her posts about her own heartbreak and see how far she's come. You can come that far too. I hurt for you because I know what it's like to feel you've lost the love of your life. Many of us here know that feeling. And you may love him 10 years from now, but I promise you that things will happen in your life that will help to put this all into perspective and will help you understand WHY this happened.

In the meantime, try not to let his parents take the blame. He's a grown man, right? So they've blocked your number....but if he wanted to talk to you he would. And if he didn't want to be with this girl, he wouldn't....and he certainly wouldn't be posting pics of the two of them together.

I know it hurts, it will hurt for a while. Some days it will hurt worse than others. The BEST thing you can do for yourself right now is to eliminate your contact with him, whether by phone, by computer, by looking at his page, etc. Delete him if you have to. Trust me, if he's the one and it's meant to be, it will happen someday. Torturing yourself by looking at his photos will not make this better. So eliminate your contact with him, and plan fun things for yourself. The most important part of healing is getting out there and doing things you enjoy with people you enjoy. Yes, you need some alone time to cry, to feel bad, to wallow around in it........but not all the time. Plan some girls nights, a dinner with a friend, a night with a family member.......go to the gym, take walks, keep yourself busy.

Hang in there. It seems like the end of the world....but believe me it's not and believe me there are much brighter days ahead. When you resolve yourself to the fact that things WILL work out just exactly like they're meant to, you'll find peace in whatever happens.