[you.make.me.smile]

i just needed to vent

Im trying to be stronger and I needed to let this out
I’m tired of always getting used and letting people used me for so long I say where I am getting hurt for the fear that it will hurt more to walk away. I wanna walk away I wanna walk away so bad, but I don’t know how, I’ve tried just ignoring him but he keeps coming back keeps calling and texting and I am brought right back emotionally

you've lost your chance I’m gone were done its over I keep thinking things will change I keep thinking you will change but you never will and I cant keep feeling this way it is not fair I want something real not the nothing you give me I will no longer be with the man who won’t spend time with me outside the bed room, I am not that girl and I am ashamed that I let myself be her for this long...
I am not your friend or someone you even remotely care about so don’t try and pretend you do...you knew just what I wanted and just what to say to get me where you wanted me, so here I am here you go , I’m walking out the door and i won’t come back. from this point on I will never let a man break me or treat me this way again one too many time I have been this girl and I refuse to be her again...I keep holding on to these men that treat me like and never go out with me anywhere it’s all about the sex, I’m not asking for much am I? Take me to a movie watch TV with me something, talk about something other then be blowing you, I just wanted so much to find love and not be stuck in this place where I am contently telling myself it’s not real, cause its easier to believe its not real then to think no wants to love me…

[sourpuss]

Sounds like you need to take a break from men all together and do some real soul searching. Ask yourself why you attract this particular kind of guy, and why do you put up with it.
If you make a promise to yourself to not date for the next 8 months and solely focus on making your mind, heart and body happy and healthy, I think you'll have the answer (and the strength to stop repeating this cycle)

[Tiptopshape]

My heart goes out for you. I don't know what to say to make you feel better really but I just hope you'll take time to enjoy yourself more. Take a breather. Try being single for just awhile and enjoy being one until you'll feel the need to love again, but this time, take time to know the guy more before giving in. I know it's easy to say these things than doing them but all i know is, there's no other way to feel better but to forgive and love yourself. Wishing you the best!

[mr.mansview]

i agree with the above 2 posters..stay away from any relationship for a few months..then when you do start to date, keep sex out of the equation for 2 or 3 or 4 months or whatever..if he likes you,he'll stay with you..believe it or not some men want to get to know a girl before they get involved sexually, but find it difficult to do if she throws herself at him..(not saying that's what you do)..there are good men out there..find one and good luck

[Mes T]

Hmm Perhaps a change in approach to dating is in order. I tell myself and my girlfriends to BE PICKY. Be picky, cuz you deserve to be! See some guy who you could possibly date... but something's telling you he's not up to your standards? Move on to the next. Try to choose a man for yourself like you would for... your best gal friend, or your daughter, or mother, or sister.

In the past I'd let guys "choose me", and I'd just go along with it... And now I'm the chooser, yessir. Watch out fellas.

That might be part of why you've dated the wrong kind of guys.

[mr.mansview]

[QUOTE]Try to choose a man for yourself like you would for... your best gal friend, or your daughter, or mother, or sister[/QUOTE]

that's a great approach mes_t...