[CHANDLERS WISH]

But you do have to focus on all...

Life would be simple if we could focus on one thing.

You do have to focus on school, on him, on yourself, and be happy within yourself...

Write positive afirmations and leave them on your mirror, read them every day.

There is no such word as cant - because I can.

There is no such word as won't - because I will.

I do love myself.


Starting with you is the best thing you can do when confused over anything in life...

Also have goals, not just marriage but goals....

[peace_girl]

just a current update. basically what it came down to today is that he says he needs some time to figure things out. he said that he doesn't want to loose me. he said he needs a break to figure out things but he doesn't want me to go out and find another guy. (i get a lot of attention when i go out and one of his fears was that i would find someone else) but i can hear it in his voice that he doesn't want to do this whole relationship right now, its too straining on him. its my fault but i have learned a valuable lesson from this experience. we're on a break but i kind of feel like it's over. i think he will do a lot of thinking in the next couple days and realize a lot. i need to finish my schooling. he needs to be down in fl. so i pretty much have the feeling that it is over and it's alright i'm accepting it. my fault :/ but i pray to god in this break he realizes that i truly care and wants to work it out. pray for me, i just want to show him i have changed. i hope he gives me the chance. but all i can do is give him his space right? he wants his space and that is all i can do.

what if he continues to call me and try to talk. do i talk to him? i'm going out dancing with my girls tonight. not to go look for a new guy but to just get my mind off of things, they want to take me dancing. i salsa dance and whenever i dance salsa i'm in a whole other world so we're gonna go salsa dancing. anyway if he calls me do i tell him what i'm doing? i don't want him to see it as i don't care and that i'm over it ....i'm so sad right now but there is nothing i can do but let him go and figure things out. if he only knew what i felt for him :/

[LanaBear]

Hun, I think it is important that you focus on yourself for the next few days. Dig deep down within yourself and try to come to terms with why you cracked and all the sudden you were looking for continuous reassurance if he loved you, was thinking about you, etc. Honestly, very few guys would put up with the deliberate picking of fights and you don't want this behavior to follow you into your next relationship. Be confident in yourself and how you can handle the various issues thrown at you while in a relationship.