We met (as student and teacher at his workplace) on mid july after his birthday this year and since then he has been flirting with me, adoring me, being such a nice gentleman, helping me put my coat on, serving me coffee, saying I am amazing and very kind and perhaps great as a woman, then he has given me big kisses at the brink of the elevator, he has compared with with other local women (Argentine) saying that I am different than all of them. He is about 57 (three children about 20 and 30 something, one is a doctor like him) and I am 41. He is cancer and I am scorpio. He is such a nice man! He can certainly seduce me.
He even wants to read Shakespeare's A midsummer night's dream and then he asked me about Romeo and Juliet for his English level...why is he choosing this love stories? well, the first one I chose it on purpose but he had mentioned it on his list of Shakespeare's readers, in fact he has not been able to finish or make any progress and he nods at me (almost as a child) when I ask him if he read it.
I came back from a vacation and brought him some chocolates and he said to me "see why you are so adorable?! and gave me a big kiss again. Recently he emailed to me in answer to some of my questions, why does he think I am so adorable because this has not happened with any other students this way ...and that his big kisses and compliments make me feel absent minded all day...then he replied to me that it was obvious that we have so many things in common and that now he is separating from his wife after a 23 year marriage and that what I told him helps him move forward. Last week he was really heart broken and told me that he is getting his divorce.
Then I asked him if he is living separately from his wife and he said yes, I am living by my own now. Well, I shared some of my personal experiences with him about my divorce too. I even wanted to stop the classes and he asked me to get back because he does not want any other teacher than me and now he even wants one hour extra of classes. Well, I invited him once for coffee (before he told me about his separation) to chat in English and practice because I noticed that we liked talking about many things and he said that it was a good idea but that we would see later. So far nothing has been proposed after the class hours. He 's just wanted to change his class time from mornings to early evenings 5 to 7pm or so (inside his company) but I said I couldn't since I am teaching to other students and then offered him classes early afternoon and after 7:30pm but nothing has been changed yet. Our next class will be on the 6th in the morning.
Well, I have been thinking a lot about him and his divorce. I even had some fantasies and felt nervous (with butterflies on my stomach the night before his classes) he even said something like that to me too: he said one day that the night before he had woken up for no reason and felt really hot (in terms of warm temperature). I recently sent him an email with some phrases for self reflexion and empowerement (nothing about love though) and he hasn't replied.
Two classes ago (when he was feeling really bad emotionally) he said that he felt "burned out" and needed time. I don't even remember if he also said or if I am imagining him saying that he did not know what he wanted. May be he said that. I just listened and did not say much. I feel as if whatever he says I am with him. I am confusing things now. I do not know if he is talking about all this as if we are in a relationship or as if he is just telling somebody else things about his private life. He said to me that not many people know about this separation and divorce.
I don't know what is going on in here really. Is this an emotional affair? Is this just a problematic student who is mixing up his personal life in class? Am I involved in something? All I know is that I have been thinking about him a lot, always. When I wanted to stop teaching to him because of something he said which kind of offended me he said that he was trying to help me (about considering other job markets within ESL) so he cared but at the same time I felt as if he was pushing me out of teaching, well I reacted and wanted to stop teaching to him and asked him if there was any problem with my classes (after all his admiration towards me and my classes...) and he said to me that he was just helping me out and talking without trying to make me feel bad, so then he asked me to continue being his teacher and then I realized that I made a mistake and so felt sick all day I threw up by the end of the day...and told him that I had felt sick all day almost to the point of fainting..and that I could resume the next week instead, and he said to me by email: ok teacher, I know how you feel I am a doctor and I have always told you that you to feel quiet and flexible with me in terms of schedule.
What should I do now? wait and see what happens next? continue as if nothing happens? ask him more direct things when the moment comes?
I really appreciate your opinion and help!!
He even wants to read Shakespeare's A midsummer night's dream and then he asked me about Romeo and Juliet for his English level...why is he choosing this love stories? well, the first one I chose it on purpose but he had mentioned it on his list of Shakespeare's readers, in fact he has not been able to finish or make any progress and he nods at me (almost as a child) when I ask him if he read it.
I came back from a vacation and brought him some chocolates and he said to me "see why you are so adorable?! and gave me a big kiss again. Recently he emailed to me in answer to some of my questions, why does he think I am so adorable because this has not happened with any other students this way ...and that his big kisses and compliments make me feel absent minded all day...then he replied to me that it was obvious that we have so many things in common and that now he is separating from his wife after a 23 year marriage and that what I told him helps him move forward. Last week he was really heart broken and told me that he is getting his divorce.
Then I asked him if he is living separately from his wife and he said yes, I am living by my own now. Well, I shared some of my personal experiences with him about my divorce too. I even wanted to stop the classes and he asked me to get back because he does not want any other teacher than me and now he even wants one hour extra of classes. Well, I invited him once for coffee (before he told me about his separation) to chat in English and practice because I noticed that we liked talking about many things and he said that it was a good idea but that we would see later. So far nothing has been proposed after the class hours. He 's just wanted to change his class time from mornings to early evenings 5 to 7pm or so (inside his company) but I said I couldn't since I am teaching to other students and then offered him classes early afternoon and after 7:30pm but nothing has been changed yet. Our next class will be on the 6th in the morning.
Well, I have been thinking a lot about him and his divorce. I even had some fantasies and felt nervous (with butterflies on my stomach the night before his classes) he even said something like that to me too: he said one day that the night before he had woken up for no reason and felt really hot (in terms of warm temperature). I recently sent him an email with some phrases for self reflexion and empowerement (nothing about love though) and he hasn't replied.
Two classes ago (when he was feeling really bad emotionally) he said that he felt "burned out" and needed time. I don't even remember if he also said or if I am imagining him saying that he did not know what he wanted. May be he said that. I just listened and did not say much. I feel as if whatever he says I am with him. I am confusing things now. I do not know if he is talking about all this as if we are in a relationship or as if he is just telling somebody else things about his private life. He said to me that not many people know about this separation and divorce.
I don't know what is going on in here really. Is this an emotional affair? Is this just a problematic student who is mixing up his personal life in class? Am I involved in something? All I know is that I have been thinking about him a lot, always. When I wanted to stop teaching to him because of something he said which kind of offended me he said that he was trying to help me (about considering other job markets within ESL) so he cared but at the same time I felt as if he was pushing me out of teaching, well I reacted and wanted to stop teaching to him and asked him if there was any problem with my classes (after all his admiration towards me and my classes...) and he said to me that he was just helping me out and talking without trying to make me feel bad, so then he asked me to continue being his teacher and then I realized that I made a mistake and so felt sick all day I threw up by the end of the day...and told him that I had felt sick all day almost to the point of fainting..and that I could resume the next week instead, and he said to me by email: ok teacher, I know how you feel I am a doctor and I have always told you that you to feel quiet and flexible with me in terms of schedule.
What should I do now? wait and see what happens next? continue as if nothing happens? ask him more direct things when the moment comes?
I really appreciate your opinion and help!!
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