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  • Hopeless Dork
    Veteran Member
    • Dec 2008
    • 4255

    Well, personally... I wouldn't contact him. I think he's moved on with his life, he's engaged and chances are you guys won't be able to become "friends" again, not in any way shape or form that resembles your old friendship. Put yourself in his fiance's shoes, you are engaged and in love and so very happy and here comes the ex gf rushing to the alter to 'friend' her ex before he gets snatched up for good... it might bother you. It might not, but just try to see it from that angle. Compare the benefits, what you stand to gain from contacting him... what he would stand to gain, what his fiance would stand to gain, and what would all be the same and better left unsaid.
    Scars remind us of where we've been...they don't have to dictate where we're going.

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    • Hopeless Dork
      Veteran Member
      • Dec 2008
      • 4255

      Just wanted to add because I just read your most recent post... that I think you are doing the right thing, sometimes the past is better left there.
      Scars remind us of where we've been...they don't have to dictate where we're going.

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      • Allie602
        Veteran Member
        • Jul 2010
        • 324

        Is he engaged to a woman or man?

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        • kristalyn_04
          Veteran Member
          • Oct 2009
          • 2164

          Thanks HD... although I really don't consider the cute little thing that happened when we were kids a "relationship", we were 9 years old and nothing ever happened between us other than hand-holding lol (and it only lasted for about two weeks). After that we were close friends, I don't consider him an "ex", and I'm sure he doesn't think of me that way either. We had a friendship, that's it... although he might know that I had feelings for him (maybe not, I don't know for sure). I was just thinking, it would be nice to be in touch with him again and catch up as friends, I do miss him... but like I said, I just think it's best left alone for now.

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          • kristalyn_04
            Veteran Member
            • Oct 2009
            • 2164

            Originally posted by Allie602
            Is he engaged to a woman or man?
            He's engaged to a man. He's gay, he came out to me when we were 16.

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