[misskitty3]

Does it equate to something as simple as your first love? My wife is the love of my life. I don't believe I could function without her. Still, I'll never forget my first love. Something special about her. If she came up to me today and asked me to run away with her would I even think about it? Nah. Its fun to think back on, but it has no bearing on what I would do today.

wow, that's real special. my ex-husband rekindled with his "first love" on facebook and left me about a month or two later. and he passive-aggressived the situation to make it seem like i pushed him into her arms. anyway.... my point for responding is that i feel everyone should work to make their marriage work even if that old flame comes back. you've made a commitment and that's the way it should be.

i, on the other hand, am doing great. in love again after being divorced and its def not the same but i'm glad its not the same! its better!!!

[Little_Miss_Me]

wow, that's real special. my ex-husband rekindled with his "first love" on facebook and left me about a month or two later. and he passive-aggressived the situation to make it seem like i pushed him into her arms. anyway.... my point for responding is that i feel everyone should work to make their marriage work even if that old flame comes back. you've made a commitment and that's the way it should be.

i, on the other hand, am doing great. in love again after being divorced and its def not the same but i'm glad its not the same! its better!!!

After reading your other thread, this just made me smile. Thank you. I'm glad to know it is possible to love again, and love better.

[Trisha23]

Though I got into many relationship before I finally got married, my love for my husband is still different compared to the others I've been with. Only in him I learned what true love really means, and it is standing with each other through joys and pains.

[Rhonda14]

I was with my ex husband for 4 years before we got married and I got pregnant right away. We were married for less than 2 years. No, he was not the love of my life by any means. The best thing that came out of our marriage and time together was our daughter. I meet my current husband the week my divorce was final and we were married 2 months later. I can honestly say that my current husband is the absolute love of my life and my best friend. We have been through so much together and through it all we were each others rock and soft place to fall. Neither of us could stand to live without the other. This year we will celebrate our 22nd anniversary. Not saying our marriage is perfect because it isn't and we have been through all kinds of stuff but we have chosen to stay together forever.

I say call him and see if he wants to have lunch or coffee and talk and see where things stand. What can it hurt?

[lizzardb63]

Obviously he has a bond with your mother nothing like the bond he'll ever have with anyone else...you are a creation between them. That's what makes them and how they see each other so different than the rest. I am married for 6 months now and my husband and I made a conscience decision to get married. It wasn't because we were in love with the idea of marriage, but because we were ready to make the commitment and both thoroughly understand that there are going to be really hard times. We have a wonderful support system and decided that our marriage always comes first. We must do what we have to do to make it right and good.

I think people have this misconception that marriage makes things okay or right or that it's just going to be the honeymoon phase for the rest of your life. Marriage is reality. You won't always get along, you won't always like each other, and things aren't always going to be easy, but you must always love each other and always put your marriage first, even if you don't want to. If you truly want it to work out, it's going to take a lot of time and dedication on both ends. It has to be a team commitment from beginning on and it must always be a team commitment. It cannot be a one-sided deal because then it won't work, and unfortunately that's the reason why most marriages don't work out. Someone gives up or chooses not to participate in the deal anymore. I guess you don't really know until you're there, but I think it's important to truly find out how the other person views marriage, how their parents treat/treated each other, etc. It will say a lot of their true feelings on marriage. My sister in law is getting married and her fiance treats her crappy, but he treats her exactly how his dad treats his mom. It won't stop...you can't change a person and I really hope she can make the best of the situation. I am helpless and have to let her live her own life.

I'm not saying that I know everything, but we've sat down with our Pastor and he gave us some real, true advice.