I've run into a bit of a conundrum. My bf is really worried bout his size compared to my ex. He's worried he won't be able to satisfy me with him being smaller that my ex.. We haven't made love yet cause we're in a long distance relationship at the moment but it's still really making him nervous. Any advice on what I can say that will put his mind at ease? I don't like him worrying about it, he worries to much as it is.
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Size... How come it matters so much???
Hey,
I've run into a bit of a conundrum. My bf is really worried bout his size compared to my ex. He's worried he won't be able to satisfy me with him being smaller that my ex.. We haven't made love yet cause we're in a long distance relationship at the moment but it's still really making him nervous. Any advice on what I can say that will put his mind at ease? I don't like him worrying about it, he worries to much as it is.
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Lol he asked me how big my ex was. I think he's just being self conscious and is just worrying to much about it, like i said he worries to much. Though I guess it's just him really wanting to be able to please me and be able to be the best I ever had.Last edited by sensitivesoul; 11-08-2010, 03:31 PM. -
That was exactly my first thought - How and why would he even know about your ex's size? You shouldn't have told him anyway, because now he is really going to be self conscious no matter what. However I know saying that now isn't helping.
You just need to reassure him that what he is doing is so awesome, there is no comparison between him and any other guy - and if that isn't true yet, guide him there. Tell him while he is pleasing you how good it feels, tell him after it's done. When he's all hard, say it. When he's inside you and filling you up, say that.
By you telling him what your ex was like -bigger than him- you helped create this complex he is having, so you need to try to help him get passed it. Being sure to tell him how awesome he is will hopefully help.Comment
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