[mzhk]

After all that I endured the last round about in the relationship department? I've been ignoring men. I'm not sure if my hormones are jumping out of places? or I actually like like this guy I'm trying to get to know? I feel a chemistry with this guy? But the thing is I can't stop getting this vibe that he just wants SEX. We haven't whateveR? The thing is he says he likes all of me? But I can't help not get the feeling that this guy is just trying to butter me up with smooth words just to convince me to get into bed with him? After my last bs with the loser of an ex? I can't stop being paraniod. Well, I asked him last night : " you barely know me! How do you know you like me like me? you think you wanna sleep with me you barely know me. How do you know I don't have anything contagious? ". He had this quiet silent pause for the longest time.... then he says to me " well, do you "? I replied to him , " nothing that I know of ". Then the ding dong says to me " honestly? I dont really know.. thats what condoms are for .. " heeh!! Am I being paraniod?? Or is this sounding like what I think it's becoming???

[Guest]

Not all men just want to get women in bed. Maybe he does like you for you, at least what he knows of you. Many men, myslef included, go by first impressions and make their minds up as to potential of any woman within a very short time.

I knew that I was crazy about, in love with, or whatever the woman I am with from the very first picture I saw of her. Sound crazy? To me too, but it happened to me and I can't explain how or why.

It does appear that you are letting what happened to you in your past interfere with your present. I would do the same thing, it's natural to protect oneself from additonal harm or wrongs.

I'd advise you to let your guard down a little bit. Go out on several dates with the guy and when you feel ready to share intimacy, then go for it. Not before and not until YOU are ready.

If he tries to push you, or coerce you, or convince you to share intimacy before you are ready, then he is no gentleman, he is a toad.

Women don't date toads.

[Wiki_Panda]

hey,
I agree seeker. Take your time and get to know this guy, if he just wants sex he'll probably try to push you into it or he'll get bored waiting.

But if he wants more than sex he'll enjoy getting to know you and things will get to that point naturally.

I would advise that you have to try and not blame this guy for things the ex did, it's a sure way to push someone away

[Ashlee T.]

What are some things he's doing specifically that make you feel like he's just trying to sleep with you?

[mzhk]

Beautiful disaster - he says a lot of sexual things to me all the time. Werid jokes about how I woke his UHHUM up....I was just eating food. Too lazy to go get a napkin :S ( i'm a big baby! i shouldnt be at my age ). Sometimes, he'd actually say I turn him on....................... This other time he said he " can't stop thinking about me sexually ". He doesn't seem to like to call me by my name? he calls me " beautiful, sexy , goregous and a bunch of other werid pet names ... He said he wants to sleep with me. That's pretty clear enough plus that and " thats what condoms are for "...

[Ashlee T.]

I think you have to send VERY clear signals of what you're willing to accept in this relationship right now and what you're not willing to accept. It's very normal early on in a relationship to feel intense attraction towards someone you have good chemistry with. And if he's attracted to you physically and mentally, then sure....he's going to think about sex. What you have to establish with him is whether or not him expressing that to you is acceptable (and it doesn't sound like it is).

Perhaps you could tell him when he says something like that "I really like the fact that you're attracted to me...as I am to you....but I'm not ready for sex yet and when you bring it up alot it makes me feel uncomfortable and pressured."

Set your boundaries. If he can't respect that, reconsider dating him. Just be sure you're not sending mixed signals.

[pretzel]

Well, he either has a somewhat crude sense of humor or your instincts and radar are on full alert.

Can't say for sure, but I'd be inclined at this point toward the later and you need to set the boundaries now.

You'll know pretty soon after you've set them what his true intentions are and quite honestly if what I think then you're probably better off.

[mzhk]

Pretzel , by the sounds of things? I'm beginning to think your right! I told him that " by the way you treat me it makes me think you've already put me in the bootycall department ". he claims he isn't but if 90% of the way someone says to me all reflects upon sex? then seriously sounds like how its presented. Had a deep thought today hahaha now i have to come up how to get rid this one

[jns]

To answer your original question: yes.