[WildChild]

Don't quit being there for her. If does get back with this woman, you know that the isolation efforts will start again. Do not play into her hands. There will come a day when your freind will need someone there and if this has shaken her relationship with her family, she will need you!

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I'm very protective of the people I love. Mother bear I guess.

And it's a killer huh...You love, you care, you stress, you pull your hair

But, how beautiful it is to be there and be able to do that, give that..You know BD, you help shape some people, as a Mother Bear and others? You can not do anything at all for no matter how hard you try, no matter how many times someone says "I know". they are of their own destiny if they choose to listen, or choose not to listen, it's their choice...

The only saying we "can't save everyone" but if we are able to help one person? Then it was all worth while..You need to get that into your head for future, because otherwise, it's going to eat at you for ever....each time something like this happens....

Hense what everyone has said, just be there.

There is also you. And being for-warned means you can see into the future You can prepare yourself and look closely as to how this affected you personally, 3 years ago and how you can ensure it doesn't affect you in the same way this time...Off course, it is going to affect you but you have the choice yourself to think about it all and be prepared and ensure it doesn't affect you the same way this time...

Your friend....

She has chosen to have a controlling person in her life, one that demands..For what ever reason, she feels loved by this and hense this girl is the soulmate, love of her life, I'd say she knows no real difference of what love is and it's sad that she has spent 3 years alone...That just screams going backwards because you can't go forwards...Your stuck.

She may not have the same opportunities you or I would have, to find someone new either...

She needed to get out more and meet other girls, and probably that was limited anyway and may be to late, to put that action plan together.

And as Pretzel said, we're here

CW

[Texinator]

Sometimes being supportive means allowing someone to make their own mistakes in the hopes that they will learn from them, and offering an ear and a shoulder when things do go wrong.

[Ashlee T.]

Then it was all worth while..You need to get that into your head for future, because otherwise, it's going to eat at you for ever....each time something like this happens....

Oh yes...I've thought about this very thing so many times...mostly in reference to the thought that I may at some point have children. And oh gracious....I can only imagine the level of protectiveness I'll feel, and the burden I'll bear trying to keep their hearts happy.

I tell her, how can you be so focused and ambitious for a successful future career wise, and so unwilling to have to let go of the past in your personal life? It's in her head, that this pain she feels, the pain she felt when this girl broke up with her, is love. And it is sad, that she, at such a young age, has spent her last 3 years alone simply because she believes that. She lives in the heart of LA....she has ample opportunity to meet people. She goes out with friends, spends a lot of time in coffee shops and bookstores, and she meets people....but never gives anyone even a second glance. It's sad enough to do that for anyone, but especially for someone as down right rotten as this ex of hers is.

Sometimes being supportive means allowing someone to make their own mistakes in the hopes that they will learn from them, and offering an ear and a shoulder when things do go wrong.

And that's exactly what I'll do....because its the only thing I can do really. Obviously I value our friendship more than to say "screw it' and throw in the towel out of disappointment. I'll certainly be there for her, without any doubt. But its very very hard.

[BabyGirl]

BD. You are a True Sister of The Heart and that is Rare.

But to be True in all Ways. You must be Truthful. Tell her how much you Love her ( I'm sure she knows already ) That you will be there Always, but also explain that seeing her put herself in the Position to be hurt again, worries you and that when and if you talk, email, see each other, that you really would not discuss The " Bytch" , well use her name lol .

As you do not want to cause strife between you two Sisters and do not want to hurt her by speaking your mind, As your Mama told you if you can't say nothing nice, don't say anything at all .. Lol

I am hoping you still get your Vacation with her this Spring. if this Ex moves back in, I'm sure that won't happen unless you Go to LA. and then that doesn't seem like much of a Vacation for you.
Hoping for the Best for You and your Sis.

[Ashlee T.]

BG - thanks. She's not really the type to back out on me, she's very dependable. She's very excited about getting to go somewhere in the spring, a getaway just the two of us. If she's back with her by then, at worst, she'll just spend the trip texting. (which will prob tick me off. lol!) Right now, I can tell she's continuing her life as normal. She spent her day yesterday helping a work friend move and then went out with a friend last night (not her ex), and when she speaks of plans in the future (like for her birthday) she does not include her ex. I think it's pretty much in her ex's hands right now. If she says "I want to be with you again", then my friend will most likely be back in it. I can only pray that doesn't happen, for the sake of my friends heart among other things.