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I've been thinking about something:

We know about the chemicals involved in the brain during the "in love" phase, which lasts 2-3 years maximum. From then on comes the "love and closeness" stage. It has to end at some point because nobody can "survive" this longer, mentally and physically.

Yet, there are many cases where after the "madly in love stage" one of the two falls in love with somebody else, hence the chemicals reappear in the brain and the process happens again.

So, my question is, is it possible to "fall in love again" with the same person? Are the chemicals released only once for every person we meet, or can they be re-released in the future? If someone had been in love with a certain person in the past, can he fall for her again in the future? Or is this only a "one-time" situation?

This is very interesting, sis. Everyone is capable of or has kind of something to fall for more than one person. I do not understand the chemistry or biology of it. But I feel something between my buttocks and I like boys and though I am so much close to my boy friend. I always fantasize what men of muscle and power carry between his two legs and how lovely to see them with their pants off. I sound going astray. But I cannot help discussing with you all here on this wonderful forum

[stressed]

OK, just to throw in some confusion: What if we only expected relationships to last 1-2 years, and then went on to that wonderful infatuation stage with another person? Are people really happier in long term relationships?

Good question. Relationships aren't only about love and attraction, there's also the issue of habit, 'settling', making plans, sharing your plans with somebody else, and for many it goes on to marriage and children. If you think about it, marriage can be seen as an effort to 'prolong' a relationship. Same with having children, as when you have children you're split between yourself, your partner and your children (also your job/housework/finances/free time etc). No time to think about your relationship with all these things on your mind. And then it's not that unlikely to meet someone new, think you're in love, and break up.

Frankly, relationships are a mess if you ask me...