[Calicorado83]

Okay, so last night my boyfriend (we've been together six months) was in a sour mood. He had kind of been down in the dumps all day, but said he had a headache so I assumed that's all it was and gave him time to feel better. About the time when he got frustrated with his homework assignment, he asked me to take him home. He still had time to hang out with me but was choosing to leave. This naturally made me feel like he could have some reason for being upset with me. As we talked and discussed his temperment and his stresses, he looked at me and asked me, "Do you feel we need a break?"

Without hesitation, I said no because that was the last thing on my mind. I was confused why he even asked because the last two weeks had been awesome between him and I. Although the question had been focused on me, the way he said it made me feel like it was something he felt, or else why would he even think it?

We're fine now, and I think he's back on track to feeling better.

As I look back on last night, I guess I can understand what he might have been feeling when he said that. I have had my moments where I was in doubt and asking myself the same thing.

Let me remind you, we've been together six months and we plan on moving in together in the next two weeks. (I think this might be a contributing factor to any doubt he might have had.) My questions are: is it normal to question your relationship and think twice about it sometimes? Is it healthy to feel doubt? Does it happen to you? Do you think this causes insecurities in the relationship and weakens it?

I love him and really am looking forward to spending the coming years with him, and have even daydreamt marriage. I worry his doubt (and mine too) could weaken us as a couple.

[pretzel]

I'll add my two cents,

Is it normal to question your relationship and think twice about it. Yes, to the extent especially only 6 months in and getting ready to move in together. This is undoubtedly a huge decision for the both of you and it's natural to want reassurance that what the two of you are about to do is what you both want. Naturally there are no guarantees that everything will be great each and every day but knowing that even when things aren't the best that the path you've both chosen is what will make each of you happy.

Is it healthy to feel doubt. Yes. Doubt can be one of the biggest motivating factors in making your partner happy. But when doubt leads to fear and insecurity, then that doubt is getting the better of you.

Does it happen to you? Yes. It has in the past.

Do you think this causes insecurity and weakens it? Only if you let it or if your doubt has a true basis in realizing the relationship won't give you what you want out of it.

[stressed]

It depends on whether it's fear of taking the next step/the unknown if you haven't done it before (moving in together), or doubt about your own feelings towards your partner. If it's the first case then it's normal, but if it's the second then it's a concern.

[Little_Miss_Me]

Sounds like you need some flat our romance. Sit down and describe everything you love about him. What makes you smile, what you have to look forward to in the future, what your hopes and dreams are with him by your side.

While you're writing this, you'll either be able to fly through it or start wondering, Why? If you fly through it, I suggest giving it to him, and letting him read over it. Let him know why he's important to you. It's easy to forget to do. If you start questioning it, the two of you should have a really deep talk before moving in together.