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  • againstall
    Junior Member
    • Mar 2011
    • 8

    Left all alone-Please help

    I have small sweet family my mom, two sisters(one married, one yet to get married in 10days) and me(unmarried). My mom has been a single parent since my dad’s death 10yrs ago. We have our so called relatives who instead of helping us are troubling us to the core. My 2nd sister is getting married and my cousin(mom’s sister’s son) who is like a brother for us is troubling us to the core. There had been a sensitive issue with my 2nd sis regarding her past relationship where nothing much happened and they broke up 2yrs back. (because her ex had a wife and a kid. Which my sis later came to know and broke up 2yrs back).

    Now that my sister is getting married, my cousin is threatening us that he will tell about her past relationship to her in laws and stop the marriage. He has already spread the matter to all my family members.

    Due to some misunderstandings my psycho cousin’s wife (sis in law) left him and ran away. Which I wonder why my cousin assumes that my sis is responsible for separating them as cousins wife and my sis were very good friends once upon a time. He thinks because of my sis he is away from his wife. His wife and he were and are a curse to each other (everyone knows). Always they use to fight and get separated. I have no idea why this guy is behind my sis that she is responsible. My 2nd sis’s in laws are orthodox people, my sis is worried if the marriage stops. . It’s her wedding which happens once in lifetime and she is not peaceful. We have never done anything wrong to anyone. We know how much my mom (being a single parent) is struggling to educate us and get us married in safe hands. These impotents instead of supporting us are troubling us. What to do? He keeps threatening us that he will come to my sister’s office and create havoc. and sometimes he messages vulgarly saying he will kill us. We don't have any support and he knows it. He is completely taking us for granted. I suppose he has mental problems. He is jobless. He is an insult to the manhood. His mother and sister who are a great support to his all bad sins are a great wastage on this earth. His sister and mother had come to our home, created a havoc and went. We broke our relationship with all my dirty useless relatives. Now I really don’t know for what is he threatening? We haven’t done anything. Nor my sis has done anything to get scared. He abuses my mom, and us very badly.

    We have fought with all the relatives and got separated from them. They hate us don’t know for what. This story is even bigger than I have stated here. I am worried if any of my family members check this and gets even wilder.

    Personally also I have been suffering a lot with my love life. Lost the love of my life. In family also such a big s*it happening. Just fed up of life and feels to go away somewhere far from family, love, friends. Just fed up of life. Meanwhile I am just going on losing weight, hair loss, skin problems. Though whatever happens, I get proper sleep and food. Just getting very angry with my relatives, feels to give back whatever bad they are giving us. But again I know the more we react, the more they get provoked and may do more wrong to us. Don't want to go under depression. I feel that i need my love to support me in this but he is least bothered. Not knowing what to do. i am posting here.
  • CHANDLERS WISH
    • Mar 2008
    • 22440

    Hey sweet, welcome to the Forum....

    Most people are sleeping but they will see your thread in the morning.

    I am more concerned of your beautiful heart and how everything totally affects you, how old are you?

    Somehow you have to reduce your stress levels, this causes hair loss, weight loss, pimples even at my age

    Can you distance yourself somehow from all of this and let them deal with it?

    He sounds like a sad soul that has to ruin other people's lives to feel better in him self.... Maybe he feels rejected himself or do you think he was spoilt?

    It is a time in need of a person, he's not there and I'm sorry but we are.

    CW
    PUT A LITTLE 'LIKE' IN MY SOUL!

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    • againstall
      Junior Member
      • Mar 2011
      • 8

      He is a corrupted untamed animal. He never had a job. Which wife will stay with a person who relies for everything on his sister and mother?? I don't know which slang to use to define his personality. Just getting frustrated a lot. I am 23yrs. I am so fed up that i feel to just run away even from my family(mom and sisters) though i know they have no one now.

      My confusion is to file a complaint against him in police station, or should we just let him threaten however he wants. As i know barking dogs never bite. I know he won't do anything. What will he do? what will he tell to my sisters in laws?about her past relation which makes no sense? And what will we complain against him? that he is threatening and for what is he threatening? No idea. How people like him have such a long life. Just astonished about god's creation. He is like a on earth.

      Thank you so much for your reply. I will wait for the responses no problem.
      Last edited by againstall; 03-31-2011, 01:09 AM. Reason: missed out words in between

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      • againstall
        Junior Member
        • Mar 2011
        • 8

        I mean he is like a hel* on earth

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        • CHANDLERS WISH
          • Mar 2008
          • 22440

          * used in a word is a no no, but we'll let it pass this time

          Are there men in your family I mean surely someone can tell him his childish antics are CHILDISH?

          Remember your heading........

          You are taking on too much for one person sweet.

          CW
          PUT A LITTLE 'LIKE' IN MY SOUL!

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          • againstall
            Junior Member
            • Mar 2011
            • 8

            Okay no more using slang. There are no men to support us and he knows it well. That has been the problem from start.

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            • CHANDLERS WISH
              • Mar 2008
              • 22440

              I can feel your frustration and anger there....

              Well there needs to be, a neighbour? A friend? A male that makes him realise his game with women as he sees them as defenseless isn't going to happen as there is a male here, involved that will not accept this...

              CW
              PUT A LITTLE 'LIKE' IN MY SOUL!

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              • againstall
                Junior Member
                • Mar 2011
                • 8

                he is not scared of anybody. If you are aware of the word 'yamraj'(in hindi), he is not even scared of him i think. And i am scared to share this matter with any outsider and take his help. Because he may take us for granted again. Sometimes i feel we should just stop bothering about him. But again i wonder why is he so much bothering us?? he is definitely mentally ill. His mind is empty with no job, no wife, no kid. An empty mind is a devil's own. Just waiting untill sister's marriage, i am just gonna go somewhere far, not bothering about anybody and get attached emotionally to anyone. I really appreciate the way you are having patience in my queries. Though you may be irritated, you are consoling me so well. Thank you so much. I will continue tomorrow. Its evening here. Catch you tomorrow morning.

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                • againstall
                  Junior Member
                  • Mar 2011
                  • 8

                  Originally posted by againstall
                  i am just gonna go somewhere far, not bothering about anybody and get attached emotionally to anyone.
                  i mean not get attached emotionally to anyone

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                  • CHANDLERS WISH
                    • Mar 2008
                    • 22440

                    Hello mam, where did you go?

                    Lost souls don't care about there lives and get jealous of others...

                    So, you are going away after the wedding which has now passed, to get away from all of this?

                    Hope you ticked the box to receive replies to your thread on your Computer.

                    Let us know if you moved and how you are.

                    CW
                    PUT A LITTLE 'LIKE' IN MY SOUL!

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