[Aly2520]

Me and my boyfriend have been off and on for last 2 years...
I really do love him very much..
People say im to younge to be saying such word
But i really belive i am
And he says he is too
But our relationship has been set of lies and no comunication
We try to make things better
But we lived 7hours way for a year since i moved away..
A few visits here and there to spend time with eachother just isent the same.
He thinks things are great with us
But i think its getting worrse
We fight almost every day about his smokeing habbit
And if we dont fight its cuz we dont talk all day
Alot of things make me believe that he is cheatin again
I dont know if he is or not its hard to really trust him after the last time he cheated on me.
Is this relationship really anything or are we just toying with eachother???

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Sweet,

Lies
Cheating
Smoking
Argueing


And distance is very very difficult to deal with, if you don't like any of those things..

Often if a person thinks things are great, it's great for them.. What about you?

You are in a long distance relationship and he has cheated on you before, you are fighting and seeing each other as "friends" here and there, yet he holds onto you because that way you're his...

If that makes sense to you then it's time to call it quits.

Nothing to do with age, all to do with what you wrote.

CW

[Guest]

The realities of the "relationship" are upon you, Lies, Cheating, Smoking, Arguing, Distance, just as CW mentioned above.

In my mind, this is not a relationship at all, but abuse that you have come to accept as part of a relationship.

IMO - It's time to end this thing and move on.

Find someone who doesn't Lie, Cheat, Smoke or Argue very often.

You deserve better...we all do.

[Aly2520]

thanks,
Ending things with him does seem like the right thing to do
Its just i been with him so long and when we try to brake things off from eachother
One of use always go back and ask to take eachother back..
Its mostly him but eho ask to take him back

The Cheating nly happen once with his ex.
He promised he wouldent do it again
But he dosnt always keep all of his promises
When we do see eachother we are always a boyfriend and girlfriend
We both notice we cant just me friends we have to much feelings for each other to take that step back

The smokeing really bothers me alot its mostly why we argue about that
He acts diffrent when he smokes
He says he dosent but the truth is he acts stupid and says things that he wouldent say when hes not smoking
Then he gets mad when i tell him that he needs to stop

Im just confused
because as much as we fight and argue
There are times he treats me like a princess
And say things that make me feel like im walking on clouds at the end of the day...a

[Mes T]

ALL guys can make you feel like a princess, but not all have to lie, cheat, fight, etc on top of it.

Wouldn't it be better to have a guy who can make you feel great and... nothing else?

Of course no relationship is "perfect," but it doesn't have to be this bi-polar either.

[BabyGirl]

They key part of your Post to me is this

The smokeing really bothers me alot its mostly why we argue about that
He acts diffrent when he smokes
He says he dosent but the truth is he acts stupid and says things that he wouldent say when hes not smoking
Then he gets mad when i tell him that he needs to stop

I Believe most of our Members are thinking Smoking ... Cigarettes..

But unless he is Nicotine Addictive and Quitting Nicotine Addiction, Mood changes are not something that is associated with " Not Smoking".
Though it is if you are using any of the " New " Chantix or Stop Smoking Products on the Market .

I Believe that your Friend is Smoking something a Bit Different ?

You have fights over his smoking, he is rude or offensive and not his " Normal " self and he gets mad when you ask or tell him to stop .

That is a Huge sign to YOU ... You can do Better.