[no_4ever_no]

I can’t understand why a guy would continue to hope and make himself be known if a girl already told him that she is not attracted to short, feminine and wimpy looking, abusive, arrogant, pompous, irrational, petulant, ignorant, immature, and younger guys – she could be his mother because of her maturity even though she is a few years older than him. She has an aversion for bad guys, and he is a bad guy.

How can a guy forgive another girl saying something cruel and nasty things about him? Does anyone know any guy that is the same way?

She doesn’t want to be a cougar or his mother or whatever older women have the attraction for younger guys; it gives her the creeps – real bad creeps.

Would someone get into this guy’s mind and rationalize how a guy would do something such asinine of himself? Is he considered psychotic or plain unintelligent?

[Guest]

He simply hasn't got the message. Some people, both men and women, will hanker for a love even though in their deepest heart they know it won't work. I've been there before. Not as abusive or anything like that, just naive. You must never give him any kind of come-on signal again if you really want him out of your life. Eventually he will give up and leave you in peace.x He was probably looking for a mother figure.

[Hopeless Dork]

Unless the guy is being a harrassing stalker... is there any real reason to INSULT him in order to express you are not interested? What if you liked someone that didn't like you... wouldn't you rather have them give you a no thank you, but kindly type response? Or would like them to point out every concievable flaw you have from your looks to your personality as to why they wouldn't ever on this earth be with you?

Perhaps he has low self esteem, and some obviously bad judgement... but I think berrating someone for being attracted to you (unless like I said they have become aggressive in their persuit) is so cruel and unecessary. There are ways to let people down without tearing them apart about who they are as a person.

[no_4ever_no]

Would someone help my friend in rationalizing with this guy or those that created this ugly monster that if she wanted to be part of this guy’s life, she would have gone out of her way to be close to him or call him and tell him that she waned to be part of his life and say she would take every ugly thing that she had said back? She is doing her own thing and minding other people’s business. She is not giving him or anyone any hidden messages. She is not proving anything to anyone. If you want to be better than her, then you surely are. You have proved enough to her and she understands where she stands. She does not care! Do not harass her anymore.

Any volunteers?

[Maximus]

What part of HD post you didn't agree with ?
Does it seem rational to come to a forum to seek volunteers for a private matter ?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

A guy that takes that carp? Belittlement, put downs, has been there, and relates to it and trys to break it...

It's your friend that needs a wake up call a reality check..

What comes around goes around... To speak ill, cutting, is plain nasty... full stop... She needs to learn manners and how to deal with situations on a mature level...You say she is mature? I say she is immature.

CW

[WildChild]

Have to agree with CW, HD, and Virgile, mature people can make themselves quite clear without resorting to being nasty. A list including things such as height and age as being equal with "abusive, arrogant, pompous, irrational, petulant, ignorant, immature", makes no sense. Having a preference for taller men does not make a shorter man repugnant - not to a mature mind. The response would simply be that you are not attracted to them. Age is also not a huge factor to most people past a certain age or maturity level. Some people are mature at 25 and others aren't at 60.

Perhaps you had best just let your mature friend deal with this in an appropriate and firmly kind manner.