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i was married for 20 years and i am always having problems with women and my husband. I am so fustrated , that i just do not know what i should do. I always confront him on whatever i found and he would tell me that i am stupid and he would not cheat on me.1. 18 years ago i found a woman on the fireescape 2. people called me and told me he is seeing other women 3. women will call and hang up on me when i answer the phone 4. he will be on the phone for hours 5. Facebook he would be adding only women, which he claims he do not know 6. he is a plumber so he would be on call i do not trust him until i feel that he with another woman. I do not know if i am the wrong one because i would argue about all these things, and he makes me feel that i am just quarrelling for no reason. Recently there was an incident where he met an old school friend after 25 years, so it was her birthday , he went , it was 3 hours away, he never called to say he reached ,i tried calling he never answer and came back the other morning at 9a.m. there is so much , that i just do not know what to do . But i really do not trust him and he is not trying to help me to. He would say he dont care what people think.I saw alot of conversations with this person on facebook and one was she know that he likes the attention from her. When i confronted her on facebook she said she do not care how i feel because that is her good friend and it will continue to be that way. He is someone who will make sure we have everything in the house. I have deleted his facebook he even open one secretly just to talk to this same person. I am threatening him to delete all those random women, he told me he is going to reopen one where i would not have any access.I believe he wants to be with these women and i just have to live with it.

[WildChild]

Why do you have to live with it?

[Hopeless Dork]

Well ... it doesn't sound like he takes your feelings into consideration at all. The only thing good you had to say about him is that he provides for you. Well. This is your life, you are living it now... its the only one we have. Do you experience laughter with him? Do you get attention from him? Do you get physical affection and sexual pleasure from him? Does he make you feel special? Are you friends? Does he listen to your thoughts and opinions? Does he share his with you?

It sounds like these other women are giving him attention, is it that he is greedy and just wants lots of attention? Or do you feel like you guys have lost your relationship and are more like roomates?

[caterpillar79]

....i just have to live with it.

Why? Is there any reason? I don't think that will benefit you at all. He is not treating you a loving husband would to his wife. There is no respect for your feelings. Beside, he doesn't make any effort to show he can be trusted. Once trust is not there, I do not see a point of staying in a relationship.