[PamPam]

Having seconds thoughts about moving in with my guy after finding out he has been receiving text from a female of her lady parts, he says he knows from out of state. Says it started happening when we seperated for a brief moment last year and now she just sends them to him and he can't stop her from doing it unless he changes his phone number. Says he has not talked to her and informed that we are back together now, he says it will eventually stop. He got very angry when I found his lost memory card with the pics on it and confronted him about it.

[Mes T]

Ohhhh, no. Don't buy that "Oh I can't stop her from doing it, I'll just sit here and keep receiving nekkid pics til she feels like stopping."

He can TELL her, "STOP doing this, I am disgusted by these pictures, I am NOT interested."

Unless he does this I would halt your plans on moving in together.

[PamPam]

IKR, I explained to him that I do not want to be in a relationship with him under these circumstances. It is one thing he watches porn which may be a little more understandable for him being a male. We watch it together sometimes. It's the lying and covering up I will not tolerate....

[Mes T]

Mm. I think it's different too as this girl who is texting him is a "real" person, whereas people in porn films are more fantasy figures.

[PamPam]

Yea, exactly. I adamently expressed to him that it is unexceptable and that I do not believe that he can not put a stop to it. He asked me if I wanted him to change his number, I told him thats his choice cause if he does it cause I say so he will just re-issue the number again...

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Says he has not talked to her and informed that we are back together now, he says it will eventually stop. He got very angry when I found his lost memory card with the pics on it and confronted him about it.

Is that even respect for her? Think about it, imagine that's you, you had a thing and fell for this guy and so, you continue to send photos of yourself, all the while the guy, neglects to tell you he's back in a relationship, how would you feel? Dirty? Discusting? Used? And if he watches porn what is he doing when masterbating without the computer, instead the telephone pictures?

Then there is deliberately not telling her about you..Is that respecting you?

And then there's what, "it will eventually stop?"... It should have when you re-ignited, if, he, never replied with his own photo, don't you think? Who keeps sending photos of their parts unless the other person is playing.


Ask yourself why he wants you to move in? Who will be paying half the rent, who will be cooking his meals?

CW

[Guest]

Red Flag!

Warning! This man cannot be trusted - IMO.

The last thing I would do IF I were you is move in with this guy.

Don't do it!

[jns]

If he seriously didn't want pictures and text messages from her, he would have changed his number already.

[WildChild]

Well I've never sent any man naked pics, ever. They usually blow it long before I trust them enough to do something like that. But I do understand that there are women who will drop their pants and start snapping at the drop of a hat. I doubt they are a dime a dozen though.

You had a brief break up and in that time he got to know another woman well enough for her to send these pics and after months she is still doing it? With zero encouragement?

Do you have any money to invest? I can get you a great deal on a bridge. Or how about some land in Florida that is really close to water?

[Texinator]

Even if he told her that he's in a relationship now and she should stop, and she continued to send pictures anyway, I'm pretty sure it should be possible to block her number on his phone.