[CHANDLERS WISH]

Well I think he does miss you but he's thinking as well, can it change? You both NEED to be happy and he wants to be happy as I said before, go for you, don't not communicate a text here and there? Once a week maybe With just a sooo , you don't expect me not to flirt at least? Thinking how you make me laugh, I've had a great week re-connected with some friends, got my hair done, feeling good ...and your hair would be longer now, go get it cut Leave an opening for a reply... Work on you

Be happy

[Purplerose]

Your totally right, I'm trying my best to keep myself busy. Going to a class in the gym tonight and getting my hair done. Going out with my girls over the weekend too.

I just find myself thinking about him all the time... And when i see him on facebook and stuff i'm always wondering why he isn't talking to me.
I know it's so stupid because WE ARE HAVING A BREAK, it's just driving me crazy nothing seems to help. I have to keep telling myself over and over to leave him alone and he will contact me in his time. Is there something wrong with me?

Purplerose

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Feeling powerless.

Feeling in-secure.

Feeling lost.

Why? Because you are focusing on him and not you, you are trying to You have taken the steps keep letting those steps happen and you will find he will wonder why hasn't she texted me? And he will text you, meanwhile you've been enjoying finding the new you so much that you forgot yourself

Make sense?

[Purplerose]

Yes it makes complete sense, I just wish there was some "Quick fix" way to get him out of my mind for the time being.

It feels really obssesive and i'm really not that kind of person, the thought of losing him scares the life out of me, i find myself checking to see if he's text constantly (even when i'm out) so i try leaving my phone out of sight but then when i go to check it i feel completely depressed that he hasn't called.

Do you think other women go through these phases? Or is this a bit OTT?

Some people say to me "if you need a break to work out some issues then you's really shouldn't be together" but that gives me an inner struggle because i can see what they mean but at the same time, I can understand how the break is healthy for us to get our own heads on straight without it being about "us" all the time.

Grrr, love is such a complicated emotion, why is it that men seem to cope with it so much easier? Or is that just the way they like to make you see it?

Purplerose

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Is it real love though or is it "need" settling.

We become obssessive check, want to call, read what ever we can because we are in-secure, we settled , we feel love but it's the love of what we so want to feel 'BEING" Loved that makes us crave for them.

I am 48 I think I have some experience

You were rejected.."Let's take a break but I'll be back" think about that physcologically? Oh no shirt, what? Was I not good enough, is there someone else, oh no it was me, darn, I have to get rid of this in-security, what is he doing, oh I'll check facebook.. OBSESSION takes place. Instead of WT? Are you right there? So we are not compatible or you don't see me and won't stand by me, or nurture me to gain confidence, tell me I am your soul , two people as one, love all there is about you, inside and out, did he do that? But even if he did , your issues then stem further so deal with it, help her through it don't walk away, that makes it worse. So really tell me, / us who is this guy, what wonderful things has he said on-going, what things has he done to suprise you , how really was your sex life horny or passionate?

Let's really find out who you are

[Purplerose]

I am totally in the obsession stage right now. I can't say i def know that it's not the worry of being rejected, i can only say what's in my heart and yes i really do love this person and he loves me too.

He's always been aware of my insecurities and where they stem from, always been supportive and stood by me. I think he's at a wits end now, it's been 3 years of this and he feels he's not making me happy.

He told me this break was time for our self to overcome out issues because i said his constant reassurance just doesn't seem to work, whatever he says. And it's making him unhappy because he can't make me happy.

I just want him to understand that he does make me happy, but i've not been able to express that to him because i don't love myself. I feel like i've totally messed up.

Do you think this is a way for him to walk away? Leave me to deal with my own issues? Or could this be right? A way for me to love myself without having to gain it from him all the time?

Or sex life was always great, although i did seem to be one with the higher sex drive. It did start to get a little boring for me near the end of our break and i tried to talk to him about that. Now he feels inadequate but he's not, i just wanted to spice things up a little.

[Purplerose]

Ok so... i went out with my girlies tonight. And ended up getting on really well with this guy..... So there was some pic taken and put on facebook with me in them (some with this guy)... nothing at all happened with him. I'm just wondering.. will this drive my boyfriend away if he sees them?

[jns]

If you seem too close to the guy, you probably get a reaction.

[Purplerose]

So i was in bed pretty early last night. Woke up this morning to 13missed calls and 2 voicemails. My boyfriend was apparently very drunk last night and decided he wanted to talk to me.

So now i'm wondering should i leave it at that knowing he was drunk. Or should i text him?

Relationships are so confusing

Purplerose

[Purplerose]

Hello!

I just wanted to say thanks to everyone that has helped me along with this.

Just wanted to update you all, we are back together and i am very happy

Thank you all xxx
This forum has been a godsend for whenever i needed advice or just a little rant.

Purplerose