[Gr55]

I need some help because I have no idea how to react to this. I have been with my boyfriend for about 9 months now and everything is going great. I have recently discovered a nude photo of him online that was posted way before I met him.the photo is posted on a blog by another girl.there are a few other very explicit photos where I am not sure but suspect that they are photos of him as well. I really don't know how I should and wether I should address it with him. Should I ask him have the person on the blog take off the pictures?
Just to give a little bit of background my bf used to have his own blog where he would share his sexual fantasies and post stuff.when we started dating he stopped blogging and then deleted the blog when I asked him to.now I found these pictures...I am not really sure if I am comfortable with this. It is his past and I shod not have anything to do with it.But what do you think?
P.s. the comment from that other girl under the photo says "a really good "...

[Ashlee T.]

Ick. I'd want it gone. But that's the thing about posting stuff on the world wide web... once you do it, it's never truly gone.

May I ask how you discovered this? Why were you on this blog site to begin with that you would've even run across this gals page? Are there trust issues going on here as well?

[Gr55]

I knew about this girl because he told me about the sexual relationship they had in the past,both exploring.i ran across her blog because I have to admit I was snooping.i think pilsner help it but I was curious and I know that it looks like I have trust issues.i def don't want him to think u don't trust him...but at the same time yes.yuck!...I don't want to have that stuff out there.my bf's body and thus girls comments about him...he may have forgotten that she ever posted this...
He may be ok with this pic being out there...and I really wonder if a few other pics are of him too (it's very exicit pic of having sex with a girl)...I kinda want to ask ...but I don't know if I should...

[Ashlee T.]

Nah. I'd let it go. As long as it's not stuff he's still doing. If you bring it up, #1 he's going to know you were snooping #2 it will force him into contacting this girl to ask her to remove them #3 there's no garauntee she will #4 Who knows how many others have saved the photos and reposted them. You will never fully get those pics offline. And as long as it doesn't have his real name on it, I'd just let it go.

There are arguments for telling him: maybe he doesn't know and wouldn't want his nudey pics out there? But still.....not worth the drama it would cause in my opinion.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

He hasn't done anything wrong... He deleted his blogs and told you of his life before you.

I am wondering though if he wants it all out there still. Like BD stated once you post that's it, it's owned by the Internet world.

I am also wondering if you are asking, "how" to approach him, without him knowing you snooped and wondering if he will get mad over that... If you feel that he might want to know and don't know how to say anything without him feeling that you snooped, then pose that question I don't have that answer but someone might.