[acerousme]

So I have this "friend"...we have been pals since I moved to the city. Hes was a cool guy.

Well last night he thought it would be fun to start a profile on Cam4, under my name.

He began talking to a gentleman online, and gave this guy my number. And then, while acting as me, this guy called.

I answered the phone, and he began talking about sexually explicit acts...I had no idea what was going on. This guy caught on, and began to tell me everything that "I" was saying online. The creepy thing was, this "friend" also gave him my full address. right down to which suite I live in.

Im glad this guy told me everything, and then even walked me though how to set up an account, and report the fake me online. He also reported it, and told me that if I needed any info, he would gladly be co-operative with the police.

By the time he had told me exactly where I lived, I was bawling my eyes out, shaking profusely when this "friend" rings me. I let this other guy go, and answer the phone with a very shaky hello.

The FIRST thing he says is
"Babe I am SO sorry..."

I lost it. I was hysterical! I couldnt stop sobbing, panic attack after panick attack ravaged my poor body. I was even vomiting.

I gave him trouble, and then hung up, calling my boyfriend...still hysterical over the phone, begging him to leave work, and come home. Ive never begged for anything, but at that moment, I just wanted him home. He got home about 30 minutes later (he usually has to take the bus, but his boss sped all the way here).

Now the issue is, I dont know what to do now. I have the power to potentially ruin this jerks life. He works for my company. All I have to do, is tell my boss, and he would be fired on the spot.
BUT I dont want to ruin his life. Theres something inside of me that remembers the promise I made to myself to "keep moving forward. let all the hate and pain go, and move forward". BUT Im so stuck with this one. I dont want to! He gave me permission to punch him in the face, but thats not who I am. I dont resort to violence. It only makes matters worse.

Im so hurt. SO hurt.

I just...dont know what to do

[Little]

You don't have to let anybody walk on you anymore, honey. You don't have to let them victimize you.

Tell your boss what this guy did, if only so you have to see his face again. He can find another job. Maybe he shouldn't have done something so sick. Sexual harassment doesn't begin to cover it. Maybe talk to a lawyer and the police too - imagine him doing this to somebody else; you want them to know it's not the first time! (Or, if it's ALREADY not the first time, he needs to be punished now.)

How dare he call you BABE after doing that???

[lizzardb63]

Yes, I agree with Little. I would tell your boss. He might get fired, but what if he has done this to other women before? What if he is doing it to other women right now? He put you in serious danger of you and your loved ones. What if this guy that called you was some sort of stalker or serial killer? My gosh... I feel so bad for you! I would definately put an end to this and tell your boss, or even the police.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I already gave you my answer sweetheart...

Karma will get him in any event.

I agree with reporting him to the Police as I stated, because he gave out your home address...

Don't feel hurt, re-read what I wrote.

[Darling]

Report him!
That is not a friend, he never was. He manipulated you into feeling guilty for standing up for yourself. You are very lucky this guy that called you did [not] come over and rape you!
This guy deserves to be put away. I say tell your boss, tell the cops. Who knows who else he gave your address to. Be safe not sorry.

[Ashlee T.]

Yuck. What a jerk move. I have seen (on Oprah) a case in which this was done to a girl by a bitter ex...and her case didn't turn out like yours did. She was not so lucky. You, my friend, were very lucky to find out when and in the way you did.

Did he say WHY he did this? Why would it EVER be funny to give out a females personal info like that? Phone number is bad enough, but your address?!

I'm not sure this has anything to do with your work. It's a legal matter. If of course you decide to take that route. You have to do whatever you feel best about doing. But it DEFINITELY sounds like this guy needs to learn his lesson one way or another.

[rcoreyus]

Any idea why he would do such a thing? Its inexcusable, but having an idea why might let you know if you should go to your boss, or to the police, or drop it (though of course never speak to him again).

[acerousme]

His "reason" was because he was "Horny and thought I would play along."

WTF? He knows I have a boyfriend, and HE KNOWS I wouldnt do anything like that. Having to see him at work today almost made me vomit. He tried to touch me and I just...felt so sick. Hes a horrible person. an ABSOLUTELY horrible person

[jns]

I agree with the others who say to report him to your boss. Your boss needs to know the stress that being around him is causing you.

[acerousme]

Hes been reported. I didnt tell my boss. My sister did. She figured out who it was, and decided that what I was doing wasnt good enough, so she reported him, called up my lawyer, and decided to talk to the police about it.